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Question. I am 21 years old and two months pregnant. My doctor has advised me to refrain from sex for the first three months. However, my husband maintains that attaining orgasm via fingering or oral sex will not affect the baby and that refraining from peno-vaginal sex for three months is enough. Is that correct? Please reply.

Answer. Your doctor has asked you to abstain as an orgasm triggers spasmodic contractions which may dislodge the fertilised egg. And so will anything that will produce spasmodic contractions (like your husband performing oral sex on you). However you can help with his orgasm by performing oral sex on him (or helping him masturbate).

Question. I am 20 years old. Very often, I experience instant erection that creates discomfort inside my jeans. I also have problems walking properly because of it. Please help.

Answer. Wait for a year or two and the penis will start behaving itself. What you are experiencing is natural. Start a new fashion of wearing looser trousers. Maybe you can carry a cap for emergency situations.

Question. I am 22 years old. I exercise thrice a week. On the days when I work out, I start my day by eating two small strips of garlic along with nuts and almonds with honey. I have heard that these foods also boost one’s sex life. Is that true? Can I continue eating them? Please reply.

Answer. Carry on. Eating them may not do much for your sex life, but they surely are nutritious.

Question. I am a 21-year-old woman. My friends say that they often masturbate while watching porn. I am confused because I believed that only men can masturbate. How do women masturbate? Can a woman lose her virginity via masturbation? Kindly reply.

Answer. Women have a clitoris which is equivalent of the penis in the male. When it is stimulated, they experience sexual pleasure and often achieve an orgasm. If an object (like a finger) is inserted in the vagina, then the hymen will split. However, she will continue to remain a virgin so long as she does not have sex. Unfortunately, there is a widespread belief that an intact hymen indicates virginity. This is not true.

Question. I like to sleep naked. Will this lead to any problem? Also, my genital area is always sweaty and itchy. What do I do? I like to shave my pubic region. I have used a razor but it doesn’t feel smooth later. What if I stop wearing underwear for good? Please reply.

Answer. With regards to sleeping naked, there’s no problem except that you may catch a cold. Scratch when you want. It can be pleasurable at times. Dust your pubic region with antiseptic powder.

Question. I am 25 years old. My family wants me to get married. However, I am not sure. The reason being that I had a habit of masturbating twice, every day. I know it is wrong, but I was unable to stop myself. I used to fall asleep every time after masturbating. Will this habit create any problems after marriage? Should I opt for medication to get rid of this habit? Please reply.

Answer. There won’t be any problem, but please do not go to sleep during the act.

Question. I frequently indulge in ample foreplay with my boyfriend. Every time I experience an orgasm, I feel very weak. My legs start shivering and I experience severe back pain. I am barely able to walk. Why does this happen? Please reply.

Answer. Since the body and mind is involved in the orgasm, what you are experiencing is natural. The answer is to rest for 15 minutes before you get up.

Question. I am a 25-year-old man. I want to know whether the gender of a child could be determined by the type of intercourse or intimacy among partners. If so, whose power and participation in the act can increase chances of giving birth to a preferred gender? Are there particular intercourse positions for the same? Please reply.

Answer. All the Kama Sutra positions and all your power would not help you determine the sex of a child. Accept what providence gives you.

Question. I am a 28-year old housewife. My husband likes my pubic hair and hairy armpits. During sex, he likes to caress them and not my face. Is this behaviour peculiar of my husband or do all men like this? I don't have a problem but they're a bother during summer as he doesn't like me shaving or trimming them. Please advise.

Answer. Happiness comes from what both of you like. Not all do what your husband does but who cares since you don’t mind it. Snip it shorter in summer.

Question. I am a 22-year-old girl. My breasts are less than average size and they droop down which I don’t like. I want to increase their size and make them tighter if possible. Are there any creams available in the market which will help me? What are the short/long term side-effects of doing this? Will they pose any problem in feeding my child in the future? Please reply.

Answer. There is no such thing as average. All you can do is shoulder and arm exercises. Live with what you have, your breasts cannot be enlarged by any means except surgery.