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Question. I am a 30-year-old married man. I have a fantasy of indulging in a threesome with my wife and any one of her friends. However, she isn’t okay with it. This is creating a lot of tension. Please help.

Answer. What else do you expect if you make such weird suggestions and degrade her? If you want to be happy, let fantasies be fantasies. Don’t try to play them out with your wife.

Question. I am a 23-year-old IT professional. I get fever whenever I see porn. This has been happening for about a year and most prominently in the last month. I discussed this problem with my female friend and we had sex. The next day I was admitted in the hospital with 105 degree fever.

Answer. Never heard of this high temperature occurring with intercourse. Please sort this out with a neurophysician or it is going to be a very expensive business if every time you have sex, you have to be admitted in a hospital.

Question. I have a cousin, who was in a relationship for 12 years. They broke up because her boyfriend was not ready to marry her. They had sex almost every week during their relationship. Fortunately, they always had safe sex. Can you please advise on what will happen if she plans to marry another guy of her parents’ choice? Is it necessary to tell her past to the guy she marries?

Answer. Very difficult to answer. Preferably, she should but then will he marry her? Also, her past life is her own, so help her think what way she can talk to her husband, if he enquires. In some large cities, gynaecologists repair the hymen.

Question. We are newly married and have a good sex life. However, my wife’s tongue tastes and smells unpleasant. Secondly, she enjoys it when I suck her milk, but again, it is not tasty. I don’t want to hurt her or disrupt our sex life. Is there any medicine that can change the taste of her milk and tongue?

Answer. Bad breath is known as halitosis and needs investigation. It could signal a dental or gastric problem. A doctor will help you solve it. Is she pregnant? That should be the only reason for lactation. If she is not, you need to investigate this.

Question. I am 18 years old. I masturbate regularly, sometimes twice or thrice a day. However, in the last few days, every time I start masturbating, the right side of my head aches excruciatingly. When I stop, the pain gradually subsides. Please advise.

Answer. It is highly unlikely that masturbation is the cause. Refrain from it for some days, take treatment for the problem and then check if the same recur.

Question. I am 21 years old and my girlfriend is 20. We haven’t had sexual intercourse as yet. But we kiss each other during which my girlfriend experiences discharge. She has never experienced this before. Is this normal? Is there anything to worry about? Also, she removes her top but we still have our pants on and I too ejaculate while kissing her. This happens when she is sleeping on top of me or vice versa, but with our pants on. Are there any chances that she may get pregnant?

Answer. The discharge is her normal lubrication which occurs in the vagina when she is excited. She is unlikely to get pregnant by the way you both are doing it.

Question. I am a 36-year-old man and have been married for seven years. My wife has never been interested in sex. I have spoken to her several times but she does not want to lead a sexually active life. But I have a very strong erection which lasts longer during sex. I don’t get the privacy to masturbate which is an issue for me. I cannot concentrate on anything as I always have sex on my mind. So I want to completely stop my erections. Please suggest the easiest way to do this.

Answer. This is not a good idea. Why not have a contract with your wife to have sex twice a month? Surely she will agree. If not, she can help you masturbate or find a place to do so. You need to be firm and step forward.

Question. I have been engaged for a month. My fiancée and I talk to each other over the phone every day. Recently, she told me that she enjoys kissing a boy's penis. I was shocked to hear this. When I asked if she would kiss mine, she readily agreed. I am confused. Now, I am thinking that she must have done everything before she met me. Is she good for me?

Answer. You are scared and may be suspicious. Most modern girls are quite knowledgeable and freely express their sexual feelings. That does not mean she has had an affair. I suggest you enjoy her talk and frankness. Thank your lucky stars that you will get a wife who’ll keep you sexually happy.

Question. I am a 36-year-old married woman. I have a six-and-a-half year old daughter. The part of my panties that touch my vagina always get yellow patches. Is it normal or a disease? Please help me.

Answer. The normal discharge is white and has no odour. If yellow, the odour could be offensive. Buy Betadine vaginal pessary and insert deep in vagina for 10 days. If there’s no improvement, see a gynaecologist.

Question. I am a 20-year-old boy and my girlfriend is also 20. We have had sex three times till date and her vaginal pain is getting lesser as we are having sex every time. Will her vaginal pain go if we keep having intercourse in future?

Answer. Wait and see. It should. I do hope you are not taking a risk and are using a condom.