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Sex Advice: Queries related to genital piercing

Question. Wanted your advice on genital piercing, for instance a man piercing his penis or a woman piercing her nipple, belly button or hood of the clitoris? Does it enhance sexual pleasure? Also, what medicine would you prescribe for healing the pierced area faster?

Answer. Penis piercing was a common practice in the South Sea Islands. I do not know whether it was purely for decoration or for enhancement of sexual pleasure. On one hand, if you can pierce your ears why not the belly button and the other parts you mentioned. However, I would advise you to think twice before doing it as infection can occur as a result of piercing which would then call for a doctor's attention.

Sex Advice: Queries related to Copper-T

Question. I am a 26-year-old married man. 1. My wife and I don't intend to have a baby any time soon and don’t like using a condom as well. Hence, can we opt for Copper-T instead? Will it create any problem during intercourse? Is placing and removing Copper-T a complicated process? 2. Is it true that a lady can’t get pregnant when she is breast feeding? 3. My wife complains of pain during intercourse. How long does it take for a woman to start enjoying sex without experiencing any pain?

Answer. 1. Copper-T is not advised before the first baby. 2. So long as the woman is breast feeding the baby day and night, there are few chances of conception. She can conceive again once her periods begin. 3. To avoid pain, use a small strip of Xylocaine 2 percent gel 20 minutes before intercourse. Wipe of the remnant before intercourse.

Sex Advice: Can I use Vicks as lubricant?

Question. My husband wants me to use Vicks as a lubricant. I want to know whether this can be harmful or not.

Answer. Please do not use Vicks as it can cause irritation.

Sex Advice: Sticky substance secreted by penis

Question. I am 28 and my girlfriend is 29. Everytime our bodies brush against each other or whenever we talk about sex I get an erection immediately and a sticky substance is secreted out of my penis, because of which my undergarments get wet. Why does this happen?

Answer. Men have special glands, which on sexual excitement secrete a lubricating fluid. It is commonly known as precum.

Sex Advice: Weird fantasy of having sex in public

Question. I have a strange problem but I am sure I am not the only one who has such a problem. My wife is very young, beautiful and sexy. I like her to wear revealing clothes in public. We like to have sex in open terrace and I always wish somebody catches us in the act and have a glimpse at my wife. Is this normal?

Answer. Your problem is of sexual perversity and you should see a psychiatrist lest you actually ask your wife to expose herself. It definitely is not a problem with many men as most men are able to exercise control their over active imagination and know how to keep their very private fantasies private.

Editor: Would be great to know how many of you harbour similar fantasies. I guess, most people find it really arousing if somebody catches them having sex. Please feel free to post in the comments.

Sex Advice: Sex with wife who had surgical delivery

Question. 1. My wife had a surgical delivery. After how many days can we enjoy a good sex life? 2. What is best method to avoid unwanted pregnancy?

Answer. 1. You can enjoy your sex life as soon as the stitches have healed and the discharge (lochia) stops (usually four to six weeks). 2. Consult her gynaecologist. Use a condom.

Sex Advice: Fantasizing about wife having sex with strangers

Question. I am 40 years old. For the past couple of years, I have developed fantasies of my wife being seduced by a stranger. Of late, I also imagine her in bed with her ex-boyfriend and also her ex-boss. Even while making out with her, I imagine myself to be someone else. I get immensely aroused by such fantasies. What could be the reason behind such fantasies? Is this normal?

Answer. Fantasising, but not bringing them to reality is quite a common way of arousal. If this turns you on and you are able to provide your wife with better sex, so be it. Why not explore the possibility of letting your wife know about it? Perhaps she may play out a role with you.

Sex Advice: Can precum cause pregnancy?

Question. I indulged in foreplay with my partner. There was no intercourse. However, my boyfriend rubbed his penis over my vagina for a few minutes. He says there was some discharge on the penis tip while we were at it. It happened on the sixth day, counting from the first day, of my periods. I have missed my periods. Is there a possibility of pregnancy?

Answer. The precum which is secreted when a man gets excited may also contain sperms. It is not usual for conception to occur on the sixth day of one's periods. You indulged in unsafe sex. Do not repeat this again. You're probably not pregnant, but if you don't get your periods within a week, see a gynaecologist or ring FPAIndia Centre.

Sex Advice: Are there side effects of oral sex?

Question. A few days ago, I indulged in oral sex with my partner. Will it cause any side-effects? Also, I have been experiencing night fall ever since I was 18. I masturbate every day. Is it harmful?

Answer. Oral sex won't have any side-effects. Wear a condom if you indulge in intercourse. If the partner is not trustworthy, use a condom during oral sex as well. Experiencing night fall is normal. Masturbation is normal as well, but it should be done only to satisfy one's strong sexual urge.

Sex Advice: Can abortion take place by consuming Vitamin C?

Question. Can an abortion take place by consuming Vitamin C? If not, can you suggest the correct pills that can be used for abortion? Please help me.

Answer. Certainly not. Both of you must visit a gynaecologist within eight weeks, counting from the last menstrual period. A medical abortion via pills can be suggested. Otherwise, a suction method would have to be used.