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Sex Advice: Wife taking contraceptive pills with husbands knowledge

Question. I am 29 years old and my wife is 36. On our first night, we had intercourse only once because of her weight. She wants me to take the initiative, she just lies still and makes noises. Without my knowledge, she has been taking contraceptive pills. This is why I have had intercourse with her only twice. I feel like divorcing her. Please help.

Answer. You are taking matters too seriously. Conservative women behave this way. Rather than being resentful, why not shower her with love and attention? In time, you can guide her to becoming more active. Time and patience will lead you to happiness.

Sex Advice: Lesbians underwear and pad become wet

Question. I am a 18-year-old lesbian. When I watch porn and masturbate, my underwear and pad becomes wet. Is this natural? Does it mean my hymen is broken? I masturbate using fingers. Will this break my hymen? Will masturbating affect my periods? Me and my partner are planing to use a dildo. Is this safe? Please reply.

Answer. It is natural to get wet while masturbating. It doesn’t mean your hymen is broken but it might have broken due to use of fingers. Your periods will not be affected. A dildo is safe as long as it is clean.

Sex Advice: About ways to tighten vaginal opening

Question. I am 30 years old and my husband is 36. We have sex, but not very often. I feel I cannot satisfy him, he says he doesn’t feel any tightness. Is there a way to tighten my vaginal opening? Please help.

Answer. Tighten vaginal muscles by stopping and staring urine flow; stop for a second and then restart. Do this three to five times every time you pee. Also, you can try other positions in bed, e.g. your legs on his shoulder, or with him approaching from behind.

Sex Advice: Husband forcing wife to drink his sperm

Question. I am a 21-year old married woman. During intercourse, my husband forces me to drink his sperm. I am scared. Will this make me pregnant? Please reply.

Answer. Nobody should force anyone. Drinking sperm is not harmful and is done by many. And no, you won't become pregnant because of drinking sperm.

Sex Advice: Young girl asking about masturbation

Question. I am 18 years old. I use my fingers to masturbate - I insert them like a penis and then put them in my mouth. Is this harmful? Will masturbating create problems in my future married life? Will my vagina expand and make my husband doubt my virginity? Please reply.

Answer. Masturbation is a good and harmless way of relieving your sexual tension. What you do with your fingers afterwards is also okay. By inserting your finger into the vagina, you may have split your hymen which some men have a great desire to split and also falsely believe to be a sign of virginity. If the matter comes up, it’s best to be frank with your husband. The vagina will not become loose.

Sex Advice: Doctor advising pregnant woman to refrain from sex

Question. I am 21 years old and two months pregnant. My doctor has advised me to refrain from sex for the first three months. However, my husband maintains that attaining orgasm via fingering or oral sex will not affect the baby and that refraining from peno-vaginal sex for three months is enough. Is that correct? Please reply.

Answer. Your doctor has asked you to abstain as an orgasm triggers spasmodic contractions which may dislodge the fertilised egg. And so will anything that will produce spasmodic contractions (like your husband performing oral sex on you). However you can help with his orgasm by performing oral sex on him (or helping him masturbate).

Sex Advice: Discomfort due to instant erection

Question. I am 20 years old. Very often, I experience instant erection that creates discomfort inside my jeans. I also have problems walking properly because of it. Please help.

Answer. Wait for a year or two and the penis will start behaving itself. What you are experiencing is natural. Start a new fashion of wearing looser trousers. Maybe you can carry a cap for emergency situations.

Sex Advice: Do garlic nuts and almonds boost sex life?

Question. I am 22 years old. I exercise thrice a week. On the days when I work out, I start my day by eating two small strips of garlic along with nuts and almonds with honey. I have heard that these foods also boost one’s sex life. Is that true? Can I continue eating them? Please reply.

Answer. Carry on. Eating them may not do much for your sex life, but they surely are nutritious.

Sex Advice: Can a woman lose her virginity via masturbation?

Question. I am a 21-year-old woman. My friends say that they often masturbate while watching porn. I am confused because I believed that only men can masturbate. How do women masturbate? Can a woman lose her virginity via masturbation? Kindly reply.

Answer. Women have a clitoris which is equivalent of the penis in the male. When it is stimulated, they experience sexual pleasure and often achieve an orgasm. If an object (like a finger) is inserted in the vagina, then the hymen will split. However, she will continue to remain a virgin so long as she does not have sex. Unfortunately, there is a widespread belief that an intact hymen indicates virginity. This is not true.

Sex Advice: About sleeping naked and itchy genital area

Question. I like to sleep naked. Will this lead to any problem? Also, my genital area is always sweaty and itchy. What do I do? I like to shave my pubic region. I have used a razor but it doesn’t feel smooth later. What if I stop wearing underwear for good? Please reply.

Answer. With regards to sleeping naked, there’s no problem except that you may catch a cold. Scratch when you want. It can be pleasurable at times. Dust your pubic region with antiseptic powder.