Question. I am a 23-year-old man. In the past few years, my girlfriend has gotten pregnant twice, but we decided to abort it. She's pregnant again. But, this time, she wants to keep the baby. However, I am neither financially nor emotionally ready to father a child. She feels that if she aborts the child again, she may not be able to get pregnant again. It's a subject that I cannot discuss with my family members, and I don't even want to discuss it with them, because I don't want to be pressured into marriage. I am not financially independent. Also, I am really scared at the thought of parenting a child. I do not think I have the skills to raise a child, at least now. Please guide me. She is one month pregnant. Is there any other way to deal with this situation? I am certain that I do not want a child, and I'd like you to suggest alternative ways on handling this situation.
Answer. Your unethical behaviour astounds one as does your foolishness in not take adequate steps to ensure protection in spite of two previous episodes of abortion. The rights of the woman come first, and her will must prevail. It is for you as a decent person to respect her wishes and to find a workable solution. I highly recommend you both take the help of a counsellor.