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Question. My girlfriend recently tried to use her vibrator on me when we were in bed. I freaked out and told her to stop and now she thinks I'm boring. How do we get past this?

Answer. Hmm... seems like a role reversal here. Usually it's the guys who're suggesting or doing things in bed which make girls squirm. If it was a girl making this distress call, I'd tell her to try anything once, and then decide. How else does one expand one's sexual repertoire? But if it's something that's beyond the comfort zone of your imagination even, don't give in just to please your partner. Because you may resent it and get back at her in other ways.

Question: My girlfriend insists on walking around my flat naked all the time. She's really fit but it embarrasses and annoys me. How can I get her to buff down?

Answer: If she's so fit, why have you got a problem? Is she unhygienic? I suggest buying her some really nice lingerie so that she can wear that instead of being naked - that way she's halfway between what you want and what she wants. Gifts are a great way to get what you want from girls!

Question. Since I got a girlfriend - my first "all the way" one - I've gotten even more into porn. Why is this? I thought I wouldn't need it as much now.

Answer. I don't think porn and girlfriends do the same job. Porn is unattainable; it's just fantasy - getting it on in a jacuzzi with Tera Patrick and Jenna Jameson is something you're not likely to experience in real life! Even if you've got a girlfriend now, you'll still need porn fantasies - perhaps even more than ever. It's different part of your sexuality working, that's all.

Question. I've got a thing about tit wanks but my new girlfriend is very flat-chested. What can I do?

Answer. Short of forking out for plastic surgery, not much! Wonderbras can work miracles, though - and remember to get her kneeling down so her boobs don't totally disappear! Other than that, you could try armpit sex, or even knee sex (she bends her leg to make a pocket behind her knee). I'm told it's what long term couples do to spice things up.

Question. I want to make her come in public without getting caught? How do I pull it off?

Answer. Public orgasms take planning. She needs to be wearing a top with easy access and bottom with, er, easy access. Take her to a busy bar with booths on a Friday or Saturday night. She needs to be sitting on the side of the nearest to the wall; you sit down next to her. Start kissing, lean over and slip your hands up her top and start playing with her breasts, while chatting away to her. Then lean in a bit more and slip your hand down her jeans and stroke her clit. Keep your back to the room, keep her face locked on yours, and bingo! Public orgasm without the criminal record!
Hey, you also gotta try it in the library, the swimming pool and my personal favourite - the giant wheel. Yeah...because I could moan as much as I wanted!

Que. I have the following queries:
a) If after marriage, a couple has sex three or four times a week and then decide to stop having sex, will it affect their bodies?
b) How long can a man and woman sustain without having sex?

Ans. You are starting your marriage on the wrong foot! There is no such thing as getting used to it. A couple can always enjoy each act by using their imagination and fantasising.

Que. Between the age of 20-25 years, is it ok to watch blue films to educate myself sexually, or should I try to get some practical experience. Also if blue films is the way to go, please tell me where I can get hold of these films.

Ans. Blue films are not the proper source to get sex education as they exaggerate a great deal. And neither is having sexual intercourse. Instead of learning, you can land up with a sexually transmitted disease or an unwanted baby on your hands. Get a book like Sex Power by R. H. Dastur.

Que. I am a 48-year-old woman. I underwent hysterectomy operation two years ago. After that, I underwent Hormone Replacement Therapy for six months but suffered from severe migraines. Hence, I stopped it. Since then, my sex life has suffered. There's severe vaginal dryness that makes sex very painful. The lacerations caused during intercourse results in urinary infection. I have tried Evalon cream and homeopathy as well but it hasn't helped. How can I overcome this problem?

Ans. I suggest you periodically use Evalon cream (consult your gynaecologist also for the same). It will help in better growth cells. Use a lubricant like KY jelly. Drink plenty of fluids. Ask your gynaecologist to give you some herbal medicine as well.

Que. I am a 50-year-old man. I had a heart attack five years back. Ever since, I am on a low-fat diet and taking medication for cholesterol and blood thinning. My problem is that since the last one year my erections are not strong enough. At times I even lose the erection during intercourse. Kindly suggest a solution.

Ans. You need to consult your doctor or a sexologist who will consider your medical history and prescribe you medicines accordingly.

Que. My husband ejaculates too soon. Usually, he asks me to wait after the first ejaculation and we continue with foreplay. When he regains his erection, we try a second round of intercourse. However, the problem of early ejaculation persists. I know that my husband loves me a lot but lately he is under a lot of work pressure. Please advise.

Ans. Talk to him. Absolute understanding between each other is the path to happiness. Request him to first give you an orgasm with good lubrication. Once inside, he should rest inside till he regains control. Then he should stroke and stop when he feels he is nearing ejaculation. Repeat 10 to 15 times before completion. He will see improvement within four months.