For many women, the correlation between sex and snoring is one of those annoying facts of life: no matter when passionate encounters occur, men always seem to fall asleep immediately afterwards. Read the rest of this entry »
Q. I have been married for four months. Our wedding got fixed at a time when I was planning to breakup because I realised how different we are - be it priorities or thinking. My husband’s been brought up in a small town where as I have always been either in Delhi or Mumbai so there is a major difference in our attitudes. Ours had always been a long distance relationship and we did not stay for more than 10 days together in the same city until we got engaged and that is the time I realised how different our lifestyles are. After marriage, we haven’t had sex at all. The other reason for all this is that I had met someone else during our courtship but couldn’t breakup my wedding then due family pressure. My husband on the other hand is a really nice guy and I hate to break his heart. But I can’t get over the other guy. Also, I am not sure if he would marry me in case I got divorced. I am in a mess! Please suggest a way out.
Geetanjali
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:
From your account it is certain that your sweetheart has already outgrown you and has moved on. You better grow up and take a decision about your marriage - either you are for it or not for it as marriage demands whole-hearted commitment. Before taking the decision remember that there is no one waiting for with open arms.
A recent study by Anthony D’Amato, a Leighton Professor of Law at Northwestern University, argued that the increase of pornography has lead to a decline in rape across the United States. Read the rest of this entry »
Q. I am a 22-year-old girl living in Delhi. When I was a child, I had a traumatic experience. A family member molested me for three months at the age of 11. After my parents found out, they did everything to protect me. They showered me with lots of love, got me counselling, had that person cut out from the family. All in all they got me through this unfortunate tragedy to become a nice healthy girl - both physically and mentally. But somehow this matter remained at the back of my head. I was scared of being involved with a guy physically. Then I fell in love with my best friend almost two years back and the two of us have the most beautiful, pure and satisfying relationship. Last week, while we were alone we gave into our passion and made our first physical contact but both of us remained within certain boundaries and did not have sex. The whole experience was fabulous. We plan to get married sometime later but I feel guilty, as he still doesn’t know about my past. I am confident that even if I tell him, it would change nothing between us but I just can’t take the risk. This man has finally gotten me over my trauma completely. I treasure, cherish and love him too much. What should I do?
Natasha
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:
How much to confide in a future husband or a current boyfriend is an unnecessary dilemma. Your relationship with the husband or a boyfriend begins from the day you are committed to him and you sure have to be faithful and candid with him after the commitment. You owe no apology to anyone for what happened years ago (how ever unfortunate) for no fault of yours.
Q. I am a 28-year-old man in love with my cousin. We want to get married. But I have heard that it’s unnatural sex for a boy and girl whose mothers are sisters. Is this true? Will we face any problem in our reproduction, as our mothers are sisters? Please help.
Rahul
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:
There are greater chances of inheriting recessive genetic disorders in marriages amongst cousins or closely related individuals. These diseases are certain forms of mental retardation, muscular dystrophies and other neurological disorders. It is for this reason the practice of marriages within families is being given up in almost all the communities. I do not know what ‘Nadi’ is as it is some non-medical word of some local language and it conveys nothing to me.
You’re in a relationship and there’s kissing, touching, fondling, ogling, and oohing and ahhing. Are these expressions of desire entirely one-sided? Are you the sole provider of the long caresses and bodily movements? Are you wishing that your girl were a little more attentive and gave a bit more sexually? Feel like the bulk of the bedroom responsibilities are falling on your shoulders? Here are some ways to make her more attentive. [Read more…]
There are certain moves you should leave to professionals, but you might be surprised to find out which ones she’ll enjoy. [Read more…]
Pornography is generally a healthy staple of any man’s life, but beware: Not all porn is helpful to your sex life. Watching porn with your girlfriend can be a great way to learn about each other and have a laugh.
