Q. I have been in a few relationships and have always felt committed to my girlfriends. I have loved all of them but at the same time I couldn’t stop having sex with other random girls that I meet up. My friends think that it is bad but I never thought of it as cheating. Is this wrong or is there something wrong with me? I need guidance.
Shravin
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:

Will you stop having casual sex with multiple partners on my interpreting it as ‘cheating’ when you are in a committed relationship? I do hope you are as immune to the opinion of a cousellor as that of your friends.

Q. I am 40 and got married 12 years back. We have 2 kids. From last seven months, I have been away from my wife since because I am working in Gulf. Now I will be going back for a vacation and I am very excited because finally I’ll be able to make love to my adorable wife. I just want to know is there a way to satisfy a woman sexually?
Suvarna
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Love - lots and lots of it is the only way to sexually satisfy a wife of some years having two children.

Gyanecologist Dr Anjali Deval to list 6 circumstances that call for medical intervention:

[1] She feels nervous/guilty about sexual intercourse
Vaginismus is one of the most common problems faced by Indian women, thanks to centuries of societal conditioning. With the belief that sex is the dirtiest word in the dictionary — and their lives — they don’t allow penetration, despite cajoling from and repeated attempts by their partners. Such women consider sexual gratification a sin. Apart from social stigma surrounding the three-letter word, gory descriptions in films, and from peers and others about the resulting bleeding and pain, are possible culprits. The psychological feeling that the vaginal orifice is too small could be another reason. Of course, this could also be an actual medical condition which calls for certain measures (such as using a lubricant). Read the rest of this entry »

Q. I have been married for three years now and we have a pretty healthy sex life. Till today, we did not plan a child and so we had safe sex. But now that we are planning a family and I have stopped using condoms. My problem is that when I used to have sex with her with a condom on, I used to last for about 7-10 minutes but without a condom I last only for 3-5 minutes. I am afraid this may leave her unsatisfied. What could I do to last longer without condoms?
Rock Star
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Just stop worrying and timing yourself.

Q. I am 27-years-old, living as a bachelor in Dubai. My uncle, who also lives here, is 55 and my aunt who is nearly 45 lives in India with her grown-up daughters. She comes to Dubai once a year and whenever I go to meet her she watches me very carefully. Moreover, she also gets very excited after seeing me and keeps complimenting me. I want to know if is she really wants sex with me because if she does then I am game. I want to know the meaning of things she keeps saying to me and what I do I interpret from her behaviour?
Adnaan
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:

You have got it all wrong. All of these years your aunt has been assessing you as a prospective son-in-law. Remember she has grown daughters. She has been giving you tips to look good to bring you up to the standard of her daughters and you never tried to woo any one of them!

Q. About six months ago, I began a sexual relationship with a man who told me he was unhappy with his girlfriend of four years and decided to leave her. They had a very serious and committed relationship. He soon realized that he had made a mistake and returned to being with her. So of course we stopped seeing each other out of respect for her and did not talk either. A few weeks after his return, he called me and from the past few months we have not had an innocent phone based friendship that his girl does not know about. I don’t know why I can’t just stop talking with him! I feel so bad, but it gets worse. Read the rest of this entry »

Editor’s Note:- I hope this doesn’t happen even to my biggest enemy!

Q. I am living with a girl who wants to marry me. She has had sexual relations with other guys in the past. Now she does not want to get physical with me. Just before meeting me, she became religiously inclined and took pledge in front of her Guru to have sex only for kids. But I have regular sex urge. She wants to marry me but her candid confession about past and not allowing me to touch her also gives immense pressure to our relationship. I don’t know what to do. Please advice me.
Rag
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla:

Both of you are playing a game. She has her motive known only to her for remaining chaste after enjoying affairs. You are having fun playing a hero, rescuing a damsel in distress. It is certain that your compassion for her and your immense pleasure in not allowing you to touch her is not going to last long. Nothing prevents you from living with her as long as both of you are comfortable with the relationship however screwed it is. Both of you can always move on to your separate ways without rancour, that is, without hate or bitterness whenever the tensions build up.