Question. I am 33 years old and my wife is 28. We have been married for three years and have a two-year-old child. I smoke three to four cigarettes a day. For the last two years, my wife and I were away from each other and could have sex only twice a month. Now, it’s every day. The problem is that I do not get an erection until my wife performs oral sex. Also, I tend to ejaculate early and often, my wife’s vagina is dry, making it difficult to penetrate her. She often cries after sex out of disappointment. If she is on top, she comes early and if I am on top, I ejaculate too soon. Do you recommend that we have sex every day? I suggested to my wife that we visit a doctor together, but she is not ready. We are both afraid that these problems will ruin our sex life.
Answer. So long as both of you are happy, sex can be indulged in every day without a problem. Oral sex as foreplay is well recognised. Do what works best to give you a good erection. For premature ejaculation, search the Internet for exercises that can help improve the condition. Reduce smoking or better still, stop it entirely. Indulge in regular exercising, and meditate to relax. Try and manage your work stress better. Dryness indicates that your wife is not excited enough, so increase foreplay. Use saliva for lubrication or buy a lubricant gel from the chemist. All sexual positions are helpful for fulfilment. Your sex life is on track.