Question. I am a 25-year-old unmarried woman. I have heard that women masturbate by inserting their finger in the vagina. However, my technique of masturbation is unique. I don't like to use my finger as it irritates me. To masturbate, I shut my eyes; imagine someone making love to me, and "stop and start" the urine flow. All this while, I sit on my heels. After few minutes, I achieve orgasm as I urinate. Is this method okay? I tried having intercourse with many men but couldn't succeed as I experience pain when they try to enter me. Please help.
Answer. It's the pressure on the clitoris that's giving you the orgasm. Stop the "urine method" and just stroke the vagina. For pain relief, apply a small amount of Xylocaine gel 2% in and around the vaginal opening. Keep it for 20 minutes and wipe off. The relief will last for at least an hour.
Comments (13)
on: November 21, 2009 8:42 PM | Reply
Hi,
Apart from masturbating using urine metod why dont u try out me? My tongue will surely give you multiple orgasms and it will be safe for you also.
on: November 21, 2009 9:35 PM | Reply
Try sex with me.
My dick is relatively thin.
So it wont cause u any pain
on: November 21, 2009 11:51 PM | Reply
Hello Dear,
You are trying the wrong method. It will presurrise your vagina, will effect more than everything.
Better you try the fingring or have sex with some body.
on: November 22, 2009 2:48 AM | Reply
try me. i promise u a painless orgasm
on: November 22, 2009 5:32 AM | Reply
You should better try someone who knows what you exactly want....try someone with a little experience but be safe.
on: November 22, 2009 9:48 AM | Reply
For proper sexual intercourse to occur, the woman should be well lubricated. Sometimes the very thought of getting it done quickly can act as a hindrance, so indulge in good amount of foreplay. Remember, sex starts and ends with the mind, not the genital organs.
on: November 22, 2009 11:22 AM | Reply
baby, I am there for you. I will make it pain free for you & you will enjoy the sex.
on: November 22, 2009 3:11 PM | Reply
It is okay to masturbate in anyway possible! Besides, if your able to achieve an actual orgasm by this method, your vulva and mainly clitoris is highly sensitive, which is a great thing! Continue with your "urine technique" in my opinion! And don't forget to try more ways to satisfy yourself!
However, you did mention that fingering yourself gives you some sort of irritation, so maybe you ought to go to a gynecologist and get that checked out? It could simply be that you need more lubrication... try putting a lot of saliva on your finger and then slowly slid it in... Look at diagrams on the internet of the vulva to know exactly where you need to go! For instance, when I was younger, I was almost convinced that I didn't have a vaginal opening! I continued to explore my body and read up all that I could and I'll have you know, I do have one! So, it's all about patience... Sit back relax... glide your hands about your breasts and nipples...oil your body? let water droplets fall onto your vagina? rub your clitoris gently... then put some saliva on it to increase the speed...By doing all this, you'd be able to produce some (if not a lot) of natural lubrication and then try inserting a finger or two! the key is to remain relaxed.. Due to the previous sexual encounters you have had, it may be that you have a mental block against inserting anything in your vagina, but I assure you, if a human can come out of there, a finger or penis can go in too! If you still believe something is physically wrong, all you have to do is visit a gynecologist and all this pain will be out of the window!
Also, when you are with a man, make sure you put time into foreplay. Tell your partner to pay attention at giving rather than always taking! If you can give him a blowjob, honey, he owes you oral sex in return! And if he feels he can't do that, I think he needs to grow up! So invest time in turning yourself on...! Also buy a water based lubricant to apply on your vagina and your partners penis. KY jelly, flavored condoms, vaseline, oil all irritate the vagina! So please, anyone reading, invest in a proper lubricant! Also! Did you know, oils and oil based lubricants, weaken the condom therefore reducing the effectiveness of a condom against unwanted pregnancy and STDs!
on: November 23, 2009 2:34 AM | Reply
TRY TO RUB SLOWLY BOTH LEGS INNERPART WITH EACH OTHER..FOR MORE PLEASURE TAKE A BRA WITH SMALL HOLE AT NIPPLE AREA..AND SLOWLY RUB BY PALM. I THINK THIS IS THE BEST METHOD
on: November 23, 2009 11:40 PM | Reply
Nice essay on masturbation :P
on: November 25, 2009 5:33 PM | Reply
Perfect reply by disha..seems more experience in Sex...
on: November 25, 2009 6:01 PM | Reply
Nice knowledge u share disha
on: December 8, 2009 1:53 AM | Reply
WHY DONT U TRY TO ME DEAR I WILL SHOW YOU EVERYTHING WITHOUT PAIN