Question. I am 25-year-old woman. I was in a relationship with a man for three years, in the course of which we regularly had sex. I used to have an I-pill after the act. Once, I got pregnant and underwent an abortion. I broke up with him two months ago when I found out that he was cheating on me and having sex with my friends in my absence. Now, my parents are looking for a groom for me. I am scared that he will find out about my past. Please help.
Answer. He may or may not. No use worrying about it. Cross the bridge when it comes. If the need arises, be prepared with some answers.
Comments (66)
on: November 1, 2009 7:17 PM | Reply
Why don't U become a professional and earn some money? I think that's the best option for U than marriage! Gudluk for screwing other's lives in the future!!!! loll
on: November 1, 2009 7:34 PM | Reply
dnt wry now v men too wont think of pre maritial sex... i ofcourse am waitin for an xperienced gal...
on: November 1, 2009 7:56 PM | Reply
Thats totally ridiculous advice to a whore..the foundation of any marriage should be honesty and virtue..otherwise the woman is nothing but a liar on top of being a filthy whore
on: November 1, 2009 8:35 PM | Reply
bhen ki lodi..pehle chudwaya kyu ?? ab jakar mandi mei beth ja..aur 100 rs mei chudwati reh
on: November 1, 2009 8:42 PM | Reply
you are a slut go become a prostitute
on: November 1, 2009 9:55 PM | Reply
I suggest you should better say it to him b4 hand else things would get really nasty afterwords. Some are open minded to urbanity some aint its all upto ur spouse ;)
on: November 1, 2009 11:04 PM | Reply
The key is do not go all the way with your BF. Let him drool till you are married. Anyways, what is done is done .. and as the editor says .. pass the bridge when it comes.
on: November 2, 2009 2:58 AM | Reply
WHAT A FUCKING WHORE ...I HOPE NO MAN MARRIES YOU AND I KNOW NO MAN IN HIS RIGHT MIND WOULD EVER WANT TO BEWITH A DAMN MURDERINGSLUT LIKE YOU...FUCKING WHORES THESE DAYS KILL THEIR OWN BABIES SHAME ON YOU FUCKING SLUT !!!!!!!!!1
on: November 2, 2009 3:43 AM | Reply
i agree with editor unless u were going around with the guy in the open then people wont know much and wont say directly but just between themselfs.also past is past so just dont look for this guy again once ur married hahaha
on: November 2, 2009 6:12 AM | Reply
You are better off telling all the details and let the guy decide whether he wants to be with you or not. You don't want to bet both your lives on the possibility that he will find out.
on: November 2, 2009 8:32 AM | Reply
you did the mistake, u take the blame and consequence. tell u r future husband everything. if he agrees, no problem. if he doesnt , somebody will. even if nobody agrees , it is of u r own doing , so accept it
on: November 2, 2009 12:20 PM | Reply
Well sweetie
Tell u what? First get hold of a guy- the simpleton, naive, good guy types, then make him fall in love with you madly, and then create a 'dukhiari, abla nari' kind of scenario and tell him the story in such a senti-mental 'emotional attyachar' kind of way- that he gets sentimental, forgives you for all your past AND even gives you emotional support for being the tormented poor one who went through all this.
No need to panic- girls like you have the power to devour many guys.
Cheers
on: November 2, 2009 12:23 PM | Reply
hi,
if you tell the truth then no one will marry you, its better hide it
on: November 2, 2009 2:10 PM | Reply
yes right
on: November 2, 2009 2:17 PM | Reply
he will definitely found out about your past , and you will be in big trouble then
Not to mention "YOU ARE A BITCH "
on: November 2, 2009 2:23 PM | Reply
When you were going for sex, you did knew the positive as well as negative thing. At one end you would end with as a wife, At a same time you knew you wouldn't may be cox he is cheating or you cheating or your/his parents arranging marriage with somebody else. You took the risk and went ahead. now stop crying be practical and get married and have good sex life with your new husband would be. And when you stop comparing how great the sex was with you ex. every one is different.
on: November 2, 2009 3:14 PM | Reply
randi...mujhse bhi chud le
on: November 2, 2009 7:25 PM | Reply
I find a lot of inconsiderate men on this forum.
First, I am sure she has realized that she made a mistake & a pretty big one but that doesnt indicate in anyways that she is a slut or a bitch. I am sure alot of men that have posted their responses have also had their fair share of sleeping around with gfs. If men can do it why should the female stay back in society just becz its a male dominated society. Having said all this be faithful to yourself & to your future spouse.It will not only help in avoiding such complications but also AIDS & other STDs.
Secondly, I think she should be honest & tell her would-be hubby everything including abortion stuff & if he is still willing to get married then thats good :)
on: November 2, 2009 7:41 PM | Reply
All you women who've commented, Are you fucking honest strees? What the fuck are you doing on a porn site? Shut the fuck up, no need to call her a whore, when especially when you've just wiped your milkman's cum off your face.
All you men who've commented.. Are you gonna marry the girl you're fucking now? Its okay for you to do it but when you get a woman she has to be inexperienced is it?
Fucking hyprocrites. Grow up.
- A guy.
on: November 2, 2009 9:06 PM | Reply
^^ This Is For All The People Who Are Talking Shit About The Girl^^
Y the fuck are u calling her names for all i could no she is just another urban girl had a boyfriend who said will love her to his end of his life, but half way through found another one more of his kind so dumped this chick.
If u want to scowl, Scowl at the guy who is in his teens and dosent know to look at both sides of the roads b4 he crosses it. And trust me i know a lot of MC's of his kind.
Dont worry lady uppar wala thereliye bhi kuch rakha hoga :).
and as i said (comment 6) tell hi b4 its worse
on: November 2, 2009 9:51 PM | Reply
PAST CAN NEVER BE CHANGED BUT WE HAVE TO CREATE OUR FUTURE.
NO ISSUES OF PRE-MARITAL SEX, DIS IS PART OF LIFE N MOSTLY EVERYONE INDULGES IN IT N A FRACTION OF COUPLES ARE ENGAGED AFTRWORDS.
MIGHT BE POSSIBLE TAT UR WUD BE ALSO HAVE SAME KIND A PAST, SO FORGET EVERY THING N NOW TRY TO GET ENGAGED WITH UR PARENTS CHOICE AS UR CHOICE HAS DITCHED U.
on: November 2, 2009 10:18 PM | Reply
Well dont listen to these peeping people who are fucking dumbs. Ask these people if they will happen to have an affair with a girl before marriage will they not sleep with her and fuck her all the time...
If yes then why the hell in this world they can call u slut and all.... Common guys grow up if u can have sex with many girls then whats the problem if she had sex with someone whom she was in love and moreover she was unknown that the guy will cheat on her...
If she didnt allow to have sex with him he might have left her and if she did then he decieved her... Holy fuck... I am so surprised about people of this sort thinking...
on: November 2, 2009 11:00 PM | Reply
heyy stop scolding her as an whore!! she didnt do anything wrong she luvd a guy n had sex wid him bt if the guy cheats on him den she is at fault wat fucking hypocratics r u guys wen u run around fucking other gals u dont bcome a whore bt wat a gal does in luv is???bloody insane....hey frnd giv a fuck 2 other's advices wen u choose speak freely about ur partner of ur past relationships n say u wd b faithful 2 him 4evr
on: November 2, 2009 11:33 PM | Reply
what ur say or convince with above said details by others.
bottom line is "You are a WHORE ,people are gonna laugh at your LIFE partner's back - Truth is like a LION that cannot be hidden for long in a Human."
WATCH MY WORDS.
on: November 2, 2009 11:35 PM | Reply
excuse me did you said, simple, naive, good guy .... they dont exist anymore, or go to mars to find one ....
on: November 2, 2009 11:38 PM | Reply
Don't worry..If u tell the truth b4 marriage ,most of male will not digest this hard truth.So better follow editors advice..cross the bridge when it comes...
on: November 2, 2009 11:41 PM | Reply
Apply some cement & make ur pussy not feel so deep.. so that ur future pimp sorry hubby wont find out tat ur not a pros..
on: November 2, 2009 11:45 PM | Reply
ALL YOU POSTING UR COMMENTS,
calling this girl a bitch and whore ,SHAME ON U ALL.......
if given a chance how many of u wudnt screw around a girl? chance milega to sab chaudenge bhen k laudo....agar ye ladki raand hai to tumhare jaise log iske liye responsible hain....better word pimps u all....
and YES dear whoever you are,dont feel guilty for what has happened ,may be u lovd ur guy to such an xtent and had plans of marrying him,so u went all this way............
what has happened has happend,now listen...dont ever go again fr a fuck wid ur boyfrnd because as he doesnt lov u he can take all ur nude pics and alll...so dont trust him...dont meet him again....destroy any evidences of ur relation in past if u can...
GET married to a good guy..but dont immediately tell him d truth as u never know ur husband might have had an similar experience,wait till he tells u,else let the life go d way it does,reveal to him dat u had an affair in past only if there is any fear of him finding it out and dramatize as a lady being cheated by ur past bf. if all goes well u can reveal him once u are past fifties.....god bless and remember be cautious in future before playing around
on: November 3, 2009 12:34 AM | Reply
This bitch deserved to be ditched.. Some poor guy is getting a raw deal.. Rather a fucked up deal.. People like u should sit in brothels..
on: November 3, 2009 12:41 AM | Reply
gaand mein daam hai to sab bata de...nahin kyn kisi sharif insaan ki zindagi barbad mat kar ....u girls are whores!!!!All u need is big dick in life thats it ....
on: November 3, 2009 1:10 AM | Reply
assholes mother fuckers why ru blaming the girl...jaise tum sab doodh ke dhule ho mcps...hey dun tell him anything that will ruin ur life..just play the virgin bride
on: November 3, 2009 4:07 AM | Reply
The prob in arrange marriage is that the boy dedicate most of his lyf in toil for getting a good job and to get in to good position and most of dis guys never happen to have a past relationship and mostly virgins on the other hand girls have all the fun and finally they also got a settle life by marrying a well settle groom .When these hear that their wife is not at all virgin Mary and have tremendous sex lyf , they get totally shattered.nowadays boys are total loser first concentrate on studies and carrier and it goes on ..fuck lyf and finally they girls like this
on: November 3, 2009 4:11 AM | Reply
You Bitch.. You are exactely like my wife though she still hides from me I know that she is a bitch.
on: November 3, 2009 11:29 AM | Reply
LoL its so funny to see most of the guys calling the girl whore/bitch...i bet all of them motherfucking wankers will just jump in to fuck around any girl if they get the chance..grow up MOFO's dont act like u r all innocent bloody fucking twats!!i bet none of u gonna tell ur wife that u slept with other girl(s) before ur marriage,if u really had the chance of having it though!
on: November 3, 2009 11:58 AM | Reply
see all the son of a bitch hypocrite males,go fuck urselves asshole,apne gaand mein toh dam nahi haye ek bhi ladki pataneka,sala jaab ladki uski bf ke sath sex karti haye usko randi kehte ho,abbe naa mard jaa jaake dekh tere maa bhi aise aur se chudwaya tha shaadi se pehle,fucking losers,assholes
on: November 3, 2009 12:16 PM | Reply
Hi,
I am sorry for the "behuda comments" posted out here. Guess people don't have any decency and the editor is not checking what is being written on his site. Anyways, its his image and not mine.
The answwer to your question is : Nobody is any wiser whether you have done it once or twice or a hundred times. Nobody can understand the difference. So you can act as if its the first time. Dont tell him anything. Dont panic. Its all natural. He will not feel a thing. But be honest and faithful to him after the marriage. Thats what is more important. Whatever be the temptation, dont give in to it. And have a good and balanced life. Dont worry too much for the past and instead think of the future. Most of the women do not bleed on their wedding nights. Their hymen is already torn either by sex or modern lifestyle. So dont worry on this part.
Cheers !!!
on: November 3, 2009 8:30 PM | Reply
I don't think you should worry about it. Same thing happened to my ex and her hubby didn't find out. I mean the same as in being pregnant, not me cheating on her. We couldn't work it out after a few years and parted ways.
However you have to be careful not to act or feel guilty and not spill the beans yourself.
Having said that.... you need better friends. Ones who would not sleep with your sorry ass boyfriend.
on: November 4, 2009 12:06 AM | Reply
She is just a bitch
she cheated many guys
she used to use different guy for money & pleasure both
now when her parents are trying to find someone she scared of her loose pussy, she is just a whore nothing else a educated professional callgirl from indore
on: November 4, 2009 1:30 AM | Reply
as some people have said .. u have done nothing wrong. Its wrong to bring a baby in the world that you wont be able to care. As for love, u loved that guy and had sex with him there is nothing wrong with it. .. a similar thing happened to me and my gf.. she left me cause I was no good to her. not because I cheated. somepeople here are just living a despo life. which means they would say things like "whore, slut " etc. but when the time comes these assholes would do worse.
on: November 4, 2009 1:56 AM | Reply
Great piece of advice, Raj.
on: November 4, 2009 6:31 PM | Reply
U r wrong dear. In India we still not educated in sex life. so u should learn about sex n then after u can tell anyone as a prostitute.
on: November 4, 2009 10:11 PM | Reply
Dear Friends, Nobody have the right to call her bad words.... she was in a relation with a man....he left her. I am also in a relationship with a girl for the past 2 years. We have an agreement that if any of us not interested to proceed, then we will seperate without any arguement. this is common here in dubai
on: November 5, 2009 2:42 AM | Reply
what mr. experiencd said and raj is absolute truth....practical nd possible
on: November 5, 2009 12:32 PM | Reply
So you have no qualms about what you did when you were doing it but you now don't want to tell your prospective husband what you have done.
To all the wize guys telling her to keep quite and just marry the new guy, have pity on that "man" also. Not everyone goes around sleeping before marriage. Atleast let her be honest with him and tell him what she has done before marriage rather than spoiling his life.
I am sure if the "Guy" she marries is from a decent background, if she hides the truth from him and it come out later, he will leave her. When the foundation of a marriage itself is based on fallacy and secrets, how can you expect it to survive?
Don't ruin another mans life by lying to him. It can be dangerous for you.
on: November 6, 2009 1:53 AM | Reply
You said the reason that he is having sex with your friend... if this is only the reason to hate ? if so please forgive him and try to marry him only. you can change his attitude after marriage and you can make him only thinking of you... :-). if you have any other reasons it should be analyzed... you better stick with your lover. better avoid spoiling new guys life... i think you can understand...
on: November 6, 2009 8:19 PM | Reply
All the WOMEN who've commented here, they r acting like SATI SAVITRI types? What the fuck are you doing on a porn site if u dnt support premarital sex? Shut the fuck up, no need to call her a whore, when especially when you've just wiped ur homeguard's cum off your face.
NW since she has acknowledged that she had commited a mistake,better give HER an advice insteading of showing ur true BITCHINESS :(
Fucking hyprocrites. Grow up.
on: November 6, 2009 8:22 PM | Reply
giv a fuck 2 wat others say will u marry me????
on: November 7, 2009 1:45 PM | Reply
Do not make the mistake of telling your past - just make a honest attempt to stay faithful to your future husband. Love him well and I am sure a passionate love life will keep him in heaven and oblivious of your past.
Humans are not capable of forgiving 100%... especially men.
on: November 7, 2009 9:22 PM | Reply
i absolutely agree with u dude.. As for u girl, past is past whatever u would have done is past, it may have been out of ignorance or otherwise.. but now look at life from a new angle and start a new life, but dnt falter again.. take care
on: November 8, 2009 12:06 AM | Reply
Don't disclose anything before marriage. Play as innocent and safe as posible. But remember to devour all ur love and caring forhim and be pregnant as soon as posible. After the baby comes to this world your most of the problems and mental tensions would be relieved. In case if your husband knows then just play innocence and be humble.
on: November 8, 2009 2:51 PM | Reply
don't worry....honesty is the best policy....tell him before marriage...i saw from my exerience that everyone gets his/her partner just like him/her...good luck
on: November 9, 2009 3:37 AM | Reply
sahi kaha
on: November 9, 2009 9:46 AM | Reply
I just wanna say that "u r nothing but a whore". u can't be loyal to anyone..
on: November 10, 2009 3:06 AM | Reply
she was asking for help and you guys are instead of helping her...tellng bad things abt her..
i jst say tht evrythng will be fine..just be cool n calm n face the consequences of wht u hd dn...its nt wrng,.
on: November 10, 2009 7:08 PM | Reply
If u r rich & beautiful, then there are many chutiya's in this world ready to marry a BITCH like you.
on: November 13, 2009 9:25 PM | Reply
Let everybody fuck you
on: November 14, 2009 2:28 PM | Reply
saali.... Randi tujko kyu shadhi ki zarurat hai bas Choot Chudai mein hi zindagi beet jayegi.. watz ur Rate
on: November 17, 2009 10:37 PM | Reply
mother fuckers y r u sayin such bad wrds 4 her...whats the proof dat the guy she is goin 2 marry is a shareef one...may b he had ditched many girls in the past...u don't have any right to just blame her for wat she had done in love...come on yaar,she was not knowing about that son of a bitch's(her bf) reality, who has left her in this situation... don't wry ma'm wat u have done was not wrong, these losers may not have loved anyone or may have been just always wanted to have sex all the time, that is y they don't about the intensity of love and wat it takes.....
just move on in ur life...may god bless u and may ur hubby doesn't find out the truth...
all d best and congratulations 4 ur marriage.....
and one sincere request to all the guys n girls reading this pls pls pls try not to have sexwith anyone before marriage.. bcoz if such a situatn occurs that u have to marry wid smone else then guys may b able to get on wid deir lives easily bt girls will have to suffer bcoz of that past relatn..so pls b careful in ur relatns...regards..
on: November 18, 2009 8:00 PM | Reply
u r a bitch . no one can live peacefully wit u.
on: November 19, 2009 2:01 PM | Reply
its k babes..every one have some past..i think now in some big hospitals hymen regeneration surgery has been started so go for it... i think its there in PGI chd....just check that out..n dont worry leave it to god..its not abig deal
on: November 20, 2009 9:48 PM | Reply
How the fuck could u ever think on cheating on ur would-be guy. Find a guy (like ur ex) who have slept with whores n would have no problem accepting one like U (if told ur past). U can marry ur ex-bf who cheated on u, if u marry someone else than him, u would be CHEATING on him and he might kick ur ass like a whore if he explores that. After that u would get kick from ur ex too.
on: November 22, 2009 2:45 AM | Reply
Just one comment- Be honest. Marriage based on such a big lie is bound to falter later on.
on: November 24, 2009 11:19 AM | Reply
wow everyone who are favouring this women how cum u forget that things she used be doing is not at all right... you are telling "just go ahead" "marry and enjoy future life" "you havent done anything wrong"... so everything done was right???
being in physical relation with someone for years and getting laid is not a good idea to cheat on anyone... and mfcr people are saying that groom also might be like her... who are you to judge that... simple thing is she made a mistake she have to regret it... why she broke up with her previous bf??? what he did instead? fucked few of her friends na.... but this lady now seem a new faithful groom..is she that faithful?... why didt she go with her bf again...u fucking idiots are encouraging these kind of activities... and no person will be able to fuck anyone witout her permission.. so sttop saying "why will u miss the chance" .. chance here depends on condition and loyality so stop comparing situations..the fat is what she did is wrong and she deserve the price to be paid...
on: December 3, 2009 12:53 PM | Reply
Don't Worry be happy.. hota hai hota hai.. now indian love to do sex. tum ne karliya to kya.. 90% girls lose their verginity before marriage.. not to worry..
on: December 17, 2009 12:52 PM | Reply
problem comes because of marriage
dont marry, fuc many others in the world as you did before
on: January 21, 2010 3:47 PM | Reply
see dear...most of girls doing this kind a mistake and feel like wht u are feeling right now..bt the best thing is ...time will teach u evrything...so dont worry..just do whtever u want to do now...dont worry abt future...and just listen ..dil ki suno sab thik hoga ok..takecare god bless u...