Question. Next year, I am getting married to my girlfriend of five years. However, since the last three years I regularly used to visit bars and have sex with the women working there. I feel guilty about my behaviour. Should I tell the truth to my girlfriend? I am sure she will not forgive me and I will lose her. I also worry that someone who saw me at the bar will spill the beans on me. I will never repeat such behaviour. Help.
Answer. Let bygones be bygones. Since you have repented and will not cheat again look forward to happier times. Stop worrying about hypothetical situations as they may never occur. If what you worry about does indeed come to be, then cross the bridge when you get to it.
Comments (11)
on: October 25, 2009 5:51 PM | Reply
Editor is right and dont worry since u r slutty i expect ur fiancee to have been as slutty as u... both of u forgive each other and live happily ever after.
on: October 25, 2009 10:33 PM | Reply
Dude never make such a big mistake. Take it as a note, never, ever tell ur gf/wife anything like this. you're gonna spoil everything. all trust she have in you n most imp. your relationship.
What happened is past n let go. never ever try being a hero n start telling her. That'll be the last happy day of your life.
on: October 25, 2009 10:52 PM | Reply
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on: October 25, 2009 11:07 PM | Reply
Dude
don't tell to ur hubby she'll feel bad and it'll be there in her heart for life long.
Don't do the mistake again and lead a happy life
all d best..
Freak
on: October 25, 2009 11:48 PM | Reply
Hey mate.. My sincere advise to you is that forget which is past. You have realized that you have been a jerk and that is enough. Everybody does wrong things but realizing and feeling sorry for what you have committed is good to go with. Stop thinking that someone might spill your beans as it may never ever happen. It has happened to me. Trust me, what you are thinking, would never even come close to occurring. Live life with your wife and if you still feel like doing those things again, always remember, your wife can also do the same and I am so sure that you would not be able to even think about it. She is being loyal to you and its high time you stop being a jerk. Aight.. laters.. :)
on: October 26, 2009 8:31 AM | Reply
u can tell her that u have an important secret/confession but will tell her when right time comes. that way u told her that there is a wrong secret with u before hand but do not spoil ur future and happiness with her by telling it now. u can always say it to her when someone who saw u at bars informs her. BTW, how do u feel if did the same thing. i hope u are feeling shameful for ur acts and never repeat again for ur gf and ur own health.
on: October 26, 2009 12:47 PM | Reply
Just tell her the fact coz u are starting a new life with ur girlfriend say her u will never repeat this
on: October 26, 2009 9:06 PM | Reply
Lis'ın to me,
- be sure you have no any illness
(make tests, some of them will appear months later etc.)
- be sure that you stopped your habit.
- dont mention to anyone or to her also. No need to mix the muddy water just before marriage.
on: October 26, 2009 11:03 PM | Reply
dude before marrying get yourself checked for HIV.You in high risk category and if positive still you time to save a girl's life.
on: October 27, 2009 10:49 AM | Reply
This is quite common behaviour of Men but girls are not like that. It is always good you only tell your girlfriend about this she will surely forgive you if she come to know from some other source she will get hurted and may take drastic decisions. I made the same kind of mistake and I hided it later she come to know from some other source after that what will happen my heart,my life, my girl friend gone away from me. So dont hide this kind of things, be open she will forgive you and she will feel happy also.
on: October 27, 2009 3:29 PM | Reply
dude,
before anything else.. get yourself checked for infections. you wouldn't want to pass them onto your wife.. god knows what cocks have been to those bar girl's pussies.. and yours being one of them can act as a portal of entry for infections to your wife too(that is if you're infected)..
and remember always use protection when going to such places.. and condoms aren't 100% safe.. so the best way is to avoid these places and such girls for a healthy and happy life..