Question. I am an 18-year-old girl. I had a 23-year-old boyfriend and we had sex several times. I even got an abortion from a hospital. We broke up and in October last year, I had sex with another boyfriend who started bleeding after the act. He told even boys bleed when they lose their virginity. But I suspected he wasn’t a virgin. Now I’ve broken up with him too. My queries are: How much at a risk of STDs am I? If I get married, will my husband get any kind of infection through me? Will I have a healthy baby?
Answer. It is your right to live the life you want, but you should realise the consequences of unsafe sex – some of which you have expressed. I suggest you change your lifestyle so that you are secure and happy in your married life. Make sure you always have safe sex with your partners. Men should not bleed the first time they have sex. He must have had a tear on his foreskin.