Question. I am a 25-year-old woman. I do not get an orgasm while having sex. My husband strokes my nipples and vagina, to satisfy me but it does not make much difference. We have sex three to four times a week and I have to fake an orgasm. My husband has quit masturbation with a lot of difficulty. Please suggest some positions so I can enjoy sex with him. I am afraid he will go back to masturbation. Also I have an honest relationship with him, so I no longer want to fake it.
Answer. Women can get more than one orgasm in the same episode. A little more foreplay can give you your first orgasm. Please note that an orgasm by this means is the same as having one with the penis inside the vagina, and is thought to be more pleasurable by many. Also, in most cases, the man finishes earlier, so you can finish the act with the aid of his fingers, or yours, or by rubbing against the body to reach an orgasm.
Comments (9)
on: April 30, 2009 8:18 PM | Reply
by faking ur orgasms, you are making ur life difficult; coz if yur hubby become aware of this fact, he will loose his confidence. therefore, never disclose this fact to him ever in your life
Further, enhance your foreplay time and, if possible try forcing an orgasm so that you can match up with your hubby speed. For a satisfactory sex life, it is must that both the partners are satisfied.
on: May 1, 2009 2:06 AM | Reply
Ever heard about G Spot? Try that!!
on: May 1, 2009 7:02 AM | Reply
Have you tried using a vibrator. It works in most cases
on: May 1, 2009 8:21 AM | Reply
Hello,
Here are some pieces of advice/tips :
1) Analyze your self and your husband during the sexual act. What kind of act is giving you more pleasure during sex? It could be Kissing or Hugging or or Sharing some sexual comments on each other or Enjoying each others body and so on... Do this analysis atleast 3 to 4 times... and observe what fulfills your desire among these acts the most... Try to prolong that act as much as possible..
2) Not having orgasm has reasons... Like you may be tired at night due to all day's work. This makes you feel think that you are interested for the sake of your partner but actually you are not. This is fake interest. Physically you are not ready. If you feel you are tired due to all day's work better have rest in the evening before your husband returns home. Take plenty of water all day.
3) If you feel that you are not tired have evening walk for 30 mins. Aerobics/Walking makes good release of sexual hormones. This increases desire.
4) Do not keep any kind of other thoughts during sex. Just think that about you and your husband and your play.
5) If you fantasize about sex having in certain positions, or you want to have sex in places other than bed room like sofa, dining table, chair, kitchen, bathroom do not hesitate to ask your husband to try those.
6) Ask your husband to simulate G-Spot. This gives a lot of pleasure to women. If you think you want the insertion last longer than the duration your partner puts in better use a dildo/vibrator or such a kind of sex toy.
7) Try to massage each other with aromatic oils.
Hope this helps you.
on: May 1, 2009 8:49 AM | Reply
Its not only u but many females have the same problem..males get quick orgasm than females..its better u speak out to ur partner bout this..ask him to stimulate ur genitals n hav good foreplay b4 inserting..i hav an other idea too..but only if u reply for tis comment i can disclose that...its called stop n start technique..
on: May 5, 2009 6:50 AM | Reply
have u ever used a vibrator.did it pleased u
on: May 11, 2009 6:55 PM | Reply
As suggested by the editor, prolonged foreplay is the key. One of the thing by which girls get orgasm is by sucking the breast and simultaneously fingering the clitoris, gently first and then vigorously. Sometimes having a finger or penis inside the vagina helps in enhancing the feeling. While your husband is doing guide him to do it where you get the best pleasure. I agree doing it yourself can help getting orgasm, like vibrator etc. But getting it done by husband is much pleasurable. Try this, it should work. Woman on top or doggy style also helps get the orgasm, wheel barrow is another position which helps.
on: October 9, 2009 5:25 PM | Reply
hi dear, Sorry to hear about that. Its in ur mind u have stress please fndout ur stress and then have sex with him, only whn you feel tohave sex, not by force. you will get lot of pleasure. please dont use any vibrators.
Thanks
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