Que. I'm a 33-year-old woman in a lesbian relationship. These days I feel sexually numb. Do you think my financial situation is causing my lack of sex drive?
Ans. It certainly sounds as if your financial worries might be affecting your desire. How has your lover responded to your "sexual numbness"? Desire can be affected by a number of factors: depression, alcohol-drugs usage, general health, fatigue, anxiety, external pressures or concerns, among others. Take an individual inventory, and make some time to correct the problem. You and your lover may just need to take a mental holiday together. Find some relaxing time to reconnect without having "sex" per se. And don't forget to make some time for your own relaxation. Sounds like you're feeling overburdened. Guided imagery, yoga, relaxation or progressive muscle relaxation may do the trick. A little imaginary "vacation" from your stress may be all that's needed to get you both out of your negative spirals.
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on: May 28, 2008 10:25 PM | Reply
Congrats on admitting ur lesbian status.. it is very rare for ppl to come out in open...
kudos to you....