Editor's Note: I know this question has been posted quite a few times but I think it's probably the single most important question that haunts most Indian men hence the repetition with a real twister of an answer...especially the last sentence. Really thought provoking.
Q. How do I come to know if my girl is really a virgin?
A. So what if she is not a virgin? What then? Why do you want to know if she is a virgin? If she is not then, does it make you feel disgusted?
Listen sweetheart, just ask her. There is probably no 100% for sure way for you to tell. Many women who have never had vaginal intercourse will not have an intact hymen, the traditional sign of virginity. The hymen can be broken in many ways beside intercourse. Your best way of telling if she is a virgin is to ask her. Just be honest with each other.
Now, answer my question: Are you a virgin? Ponder over it.
Comments (49)
on: October 18, 2007 9:38 PM | Reply
Why these guys are always cribbing to know if the woman is a vigin or not? How many guys are virgin who expect the woman to be virgin......period
on: October 18, 2007 10:03 PM | Reply
i m a daily lover of debonairblog.your answer i mk virgin.noone has fucked me. my pussy is very tight.my hymen is intact
on: October 18, 2007 10:21 PM | Reply
My question to the Editor:
What if by asking the question "How to know if girl is really a virgin?" an Indian man really means "Has the girl indulged in sex before? Before can mean oral/penetrative intercourse/whatever)" ... Is she pure as the yestyear Indian girls are defined and all Indian men still expect her to be ...
on: October 18, 2007 10:35 PM | Reply
BIG UP BRUV ... What a lovely answa.. Love, just be true to ya gyal n ask her if she had any relation in past... n u have nuffin to do wif her past... Just be honest on ya part n she'll be true to ya...
Cheers
on: October 19, 2007 12:17 AM | Reply
Despite the fact that I got chances for a gr8 night wid co-workers in office and b4 dat in college... I turned down their offers jus 4 one fact! I don't care if my wife (in future) wud be a virgin or not, but I wanna be one to her... Thts a policy tht'll never change... unlike smokers promising everyday tht they quit smoking!! I'm saving my semen and sex life to share it wid my wife... We are not dogs!! [No offense meant] I'd like to experience intimacy, true love and passion in an intercourse. I'm sure I'd deliver it frm my side but dunno abt the opposite side!!
Cheers,
Ammo
on: October 19, 2007 12:20 AM | Reply
thanx .very very gud answer .all of us will not be thinking of a girl virginity .only about her truth .
on: October 19, 2007 12:22 AM | Reply
Nice questions... haha... No one is left virgin, life has fucked us all... haha
on: October 19, 2007 12:27 AM | Reply
hahahaha i always thought the opinion was given by a man as it was male oriented!! i didnt kenw it was a girl and she got ticked of because of the question.....why someone asked u the same question sweetheart......
on: October 19, 2007 12:48 AM | Reply
Hi.. This is one of the important issues with almost all men on earth, (i.e. finding out whether his soulmate is a virgin or not).
First of all we must define wat VIRGINITY really is (PLS DO NOT LOOK INTO OXFORD DICTIONARY FOR THAT MATTER). Does it mean an intact hymen? Does it mean not shared bed with any other men? Does it mean not at all thought about sex before their marrige? or Does it mean not even looked at a man's penis ???...
I THINK VIRGINITY IS NOT IN THE BODY, IT IS IN THE MIND. VIRGINITY IS NOTHING BUT FAITH, IF U R FAITHFUL AND TRUTHFUL TO YOUR BELOVED ONES U R REALLY A VIRGIN... MARK MA WORDS
on: October 19, 2007 1:14 AM | Reply
Wondeul Answer, Did any girl ask if her boyfriend or partner if he is virgin, before asking this question, questen oneself. faith in the partner, love and effection are more than hunderded times, thats what i feel
on: October 19, 2007 3:17 AM | Reply
and the blog owner was right. being a med student i can tell u that an intact hymen is no more a criteria for judging virginity, as it can be broken by athletics, bicycle riding, running, games like cricket/football/badminton etc. and sometimes even by a fall.
but i would like to add something to the question asked in the end, and my sdition is: " r u a oure virgin?" even if u never had any sexual contact still have u never seen any porno? have u never kept an "eye" on ano other girl? hav u never masturbated thinking of anyone except her?
u wanna talk abt honesty.......then i demand a full honesty. :)
on: October 19, 2007 4:07 AM | Reply
Look man its plain and simple,no need to make a big deal out of this....
Whenever a guy asks this question on a forum or board etc,he is bombarded with replies like "wtf are u talkin about man?grow up,so what if she aint a virgin" type of questions...and then they start pwning the guy who has asked this single most important question in a man's life.. call him names and what not..etc etc.
Well if u ask me it really comes down to the person himself...If a man is NOT a virgin he deserves a girl who is not a virgin,but if he is a virgin he has every rite to be nervous about the girls virginity....
I dont know why most people make a big deal out of this,if a guy is worried about a girls virginity it his Goddamn right to be! provided he himself is a virgin obviously...
on: October 19, 2007 4:09 AM | Reply
fuckin dopes.....never wants to grow up..!
on: October 19, 2007 4:09 AM | Reply
To honest no..
but as i am a hypocrite ill still wish for it...
it is really difficult to admit and accept if she is not..
Cheers
on: October 19, 2007 5:15 AM | Reply
Yes, so there are a lot of real men out there who would rightfully be disgusted if the girl is not a virgin..who would want second hand goods? especially considering the fact that a woman cannot get over her first time person, she will never be completely in love with anybody else..its in their psyche and mental structure..
I have seen numerous instances of marriages breaking up over this issue..the girls were all so cunning and unscrupulous. they claimed to be virgins and later their ex-lovers and friends told their husbands the real story and out they went.
the editor here seems to be a feminazi bent on promoting the feminazi agenda
on: October 19, 2007 5:58 AM | Reply
Why do u want to know if she is a virgin or not???
I find most of indians are hypocrites.... they will fuck all women over the world and wants to marry a virgin....
gimme a f** brk
on: October 19, 2007 7:08 AM | Reply
yes ..who ever has answerd it ..if your wife has told you before marriage that she is virgin and after marriage she tells u that she is not then ..then it really is disgusting ..these type of women shoud be bloody kicked out ..if they think they can hide truth and get married and think everthing will go well and lead a happy married life..hold on ..get ready for a torture ahead then .
on: October 19, 2007 2:09 PM | Reply
If "Virgin" term in men means one who have not fucked a gal, I am a Virgin.
I have got personal with gals but never fucked anyone.
Why i haven't is bcoz i am from the Medical profession and i hate contracting AIDS. I have seen so many cases of AIDS infected people whose lives have been shattered.
Even using a condom doesnt provide 100% protection from it. We can never say even our girl friends are free of that dreadful disease which manifests only after 10-15 years. Even a gal from a well to do family can have a dormant infection.
Kissing and fondling is okay(<0.1% cases), but fucking(99% cases) and licking is very risky.
So why live in tension for 10 years for some momentary pleasure?
on: October 19, 2007 2:17 PM | Reply
Now my advice to the person who asked this question.
There is no way by which 'you' can determine whether your wife is a virgin.
An experienced gynaecologist may be able to tell whether an intercourse have taken place(depending upon the remnants of the hymen) or if she has delivered a baby.
on: October 19, 2007 8:20 PM | Reply
what the fuck!r we to marry bitches?virginity is the single most important thing when it comes to marriage.the girl who mothers ur child cannot and shld not be a bitch
on: October 19, 2007 11:32 PM | Reply
God damn.......virginity virginity.....what a myth ?
Listen up...if you will going to ask she is a virgin obviously she has to lie as she might fear for her abandonment and most importantly the worldly izzat...unless she is really brave.
After so much stress in life, careers, work, life in general can we really control our feeling to be virgins, specially when now the marriage are delayed upto 27 to 28 yrs both in females n males.
For the guys who demand the girls to be virgins regardless of there status...dont think if they can loose emotions some times and things happen as we are human can happen with the females ? Its man's world, but women have to lie in order to survive.
it is not a big deal, it is a big deal in case she is with you and commited but sleeping around with someone else. But if she is comitted to you in every instance than would you rather have her or some weirdo virgin who is not the same wavelength as you are ?
To gain something you give something :)
good luck in finding virgins....maybe XXX girls....but debonairblog has also shown what they are upto. So just pray !
on: October 20, 2007 1:53 AM | Reply
I dont think theres something wrong in his question.Practically speaking most men dont want to share bed with a bitch who slept with someone else.If she cant control her urge before marriage how would u expect her to be moral after getting married.Bitch is always a bitch.Since most people in the forum have sex with many people they find that its not an issue.
on: October 20, 2007 6:11 AM | Reply
Editor,
A simple answer to all men who indulge in virginitism thaughts.. just ask a simple question..
1)do you love the virginity of the gal or do you love her as a person?
2)Are you marrying the virginity or are you marrying the person you love?
3)What makes you think that all virgin women are understanding and in good character?
Everyone has a past, as much the past matters its also important to move ahead in life..
It is said that "giving a loving and faithfull life to a women regardless of her past is one of the good karma you can give as a man beign born in this world" --Veda's..
Rgds,
Vanan
on: October 20, 2007 4:28 PM | Reply
Days have gone when husband and his mother was checking bed sheet next day morning of the marriage whether it has blood spots. Girl could loose her virginity not only because of sexual intercourse. After all what a man need is a hole to fulfill his sexual desires which most of us fulfill before marriage then why insist virginity of wife. Of course we must be faithful to each other after marriage and live a meaningful and happy life and grow our family.
Isn't it
on: October 21, 2007 1:57 AM | Reply
to be honest, I didn't think the blog owner would actually allow my post to be displayed. So since the blog owner is fair enough to hold democratic opinions, I will post further points here.
to all those virginity haters, I would like a few questions answered:-
If a girl's virginity is not important, why in blazes is she born with a hymen anyway? why hasn't evolution taken away the hymen from her body..surely that means something doesn't it?
And for all those who crib about men sleeping around and still expecting virgins, I will give a reason for that too. It is genetic because in olden times before marriage as an institution cropped up, everybody used to sleep with everybody. And the prime necessity of life is to reproduce so that the genetic material is passed on. In those times, a woman could be sure that the child she gave birth to was her own. But a man could never be sure. So men have been hardwired to sleep with as many women as possible to ensure that their genes have greater chances of progressing to the next generation.
That is why men are genetically inclined to have so much sex.
Once marriage came into prominence, women had no reason to sleep around and neither did men but the inherent characteristic remains in males.
on: October 21, 2007 2:01 AM | Reply
So in retrospect, women who sleep around prior to marriage are sluts who cannot control their urges without any logical backing to support them..many do so just to show that they are liberated and knowing that their future spouses will never have complete control over their lives.
and yes to all those who asked, I am not westernised as most of the young yuppies today and I will never have a spouse who I have to share everything with, when others have shared her charms as well..
and medically speaking the hymen is not the only proof of virginity. the untouched bartholi's cells, the grafenberg thrush, etc are other methods of determining virginity.
on: October 21, 2007 2:21 AM | Reply
Their is no guranteed way.
But generally for women - tightness of vagina, her body language
for men - foreskin of penis, his body language
on: October 21, 2007 7:43 AM | Reply
girls are liars and they never tell the truth. especially if its bout their relationships in the past. So even if you are truthful to her don't expect the same. So there is never actually a real way to know.
On the other hand, some sick virgin ass-whole...'wants to be a virgin' for his wife!!!...what a dick head...we as Indians will not step ahead if we don't stop dangling with stupid issues like this...
My personal opp, I would like my gal to be experienced...coz only then would she be a good lay. In sex like, everything else in life, experience counts.
on: October 21, 2007 1:33 PM | Reply
What if the Man himself is a virgin?
Moreover the man may love the person..but a question to all those supporting to lose virginity before marriage(esp. Girls):Can you ever forget the Man you lost your virginity to?
The answer will be if you are true. Then where The love in that relationship from the Man's side and the women thinks of TWO!!
Think Again all you Intellects!!!
on: October 22, 2007 12:32 AM | Reply
VIRGINITY IS NOT ABOUT DIGNITY ITS ABOUT LACK OF OPPORTUNITY.
on: October 23, 2007 4:46 PM | Reply
Hi all, yes Virginity does matter for me. The question is very important for me why becoz m still virgin. the people who are not virgin they don't care and even they should never. but still there are some guys who are not virgin but still need virgin gal. they are the real sick. But YES VIRGINITY is an DIGNITY FOR ME. don know about others. And I definitely gona ask to my wud be if she wud really understands the matter. SO THATS WHY I WANA KNOW, HOW TO FIND A BOY VIRGIN ? CUD ANY BODY HLP ME TO ANSWER.
on: October 23, 2007 5:47 PM | Reply
"A woman's heart is a sea of secrets"! She would never tell you that once she was fucked by her chowkidaar.
But a man who is a virgin has EVERY RIGHT TO ASK THE WOMAN ABOUT HER VIRGINITY.
And for those who think experienced women are much better, lemme tell you there nothing better than a tight pussy.
on: October 24, 2007 7:54 AM | Reply
as a guy, it doesn't matter if a girl a virgin or not as long she has a good moral character and not a slut/whore and if she is clean and absolutely free from any nasty diseases. The guys need too get over the virgnity issue, it's just too overrated. See through her personality and looks for your future spouse. :) peace!
on: October 24, 2007 6:58 PM | Reply
@ Gryphon, dude....the logic u put across for men to sleep around is so full of shit...it totally stinks!! That was very convenient of you to justify all the "chamdigiri" (screwing) that goes in the male domain. Bah bah...@ "men have been hardwired to sleep with as many women as possible to ensure that their genes have greater chances of progressing to the next generation." give us women a friggin break ....if dat was so it wud be entirely legal everywhere 4 men to sleep around...why do we put them in jail? N even though i safe guarded my virginity till marriage i neva expected it outta my man...coz past is always wat it has to be PAST!
Thank god "brilliant" ppl like u are few in numbers and stick to the confines of their rooms and pass comments...or else the world wud be a BROTHEL!!
on: October 24, 2007 8:41 PM | Reply
hello readers,
Virginity is or should be important to a guy who never slept with any other girl and yes we can check whether the girl is virgin or not how? hell with hymen there are many types of hymen its not necessary all girls have a hymen. You can feel the girl when you are having sex with her even a 2 girth penis can feel the tightness coz once your penis enter the vagina girls skins will trap your pennis with her vagina skin if she is smart enough she can make u cry.. So guys accept whatever you got and enjoy your life.. Yes Pass do leave foot prints so it will come in future "past is not a past"
on: October 25, 2007 7:59 AM | Reply
trust a feminazi pussy to crop up somewhere..well virginblues..I am sorry to say this but please read and understand something before lashing out with all your stuck-up fury..
What I said is not invented by me..try to read 'Origin of Families' compiled by frederic engels or the 'evolution of the sexes' by Dr.Richard Thornberg. I gave you the reason for promiscuity of men..not an EXCUSE!!
Just one question too maam..legal for men to sleep around??? I didn't know it was illegal. and where do you put men in jail for sleeping around?
And give women a break? I don't think so. I respect all women who deserve to be respected but those who talk trash without sense to the superior sex, I treat with contempt at best. And peple like me are far more numerous than you can imagine
on: October 29, 2007 7:50 PM | Reply
Virginity is over rated. I guess it is used selectively to Blackmail Women, which is a shame...!
on: November 1, 2007 5:12 PM | Reply
look u can either check her pussy and see if the hymen is intact fine.
or else there will be tears in the hymen or the vaginal opening at 6'o' clock and 5'o'clock position that proves the hymen was broken and most virgins dont allow more than a single finger in their vagina.
look for the folds of the labia minora u have a distinct skin folds which are the remnant of the once hymen.
look instead of giving all bullshit answers of why should one care about if his gal is a virgin or not
answer the man straight and give him answers if not keep yer mouths shut dont rub ur opinion on them
what i said is taken straight out of forensic medicine handbook and i know it cos im a doctor .
now u can fool some but not all
hymen breakage by sport activity well:))
great those who say sports break hymen are trying to say i fucked around before u but im still honest.
on: November 2, 2007 7:43 AM | Reply
gryphon, I agree every word you said brother!!!
on: November 13, 2007 11:40 AM | Reply
My wife is very hot but want sex infornt me,suggust me it is possible?she wants strong male.when she looks debonairblog sex clips she is happy.
Editor's Reply: Dear Friend, that is for you to decide. Do it if you are comfortable.
on: November 14, 2007 5:07 PM | Reply
WTF man.... I am not a virgin BUT trust me i would like that my wife should at least say that she is a virgin and I would believe her... Even if she shows every sign of not being a virgin...
Now the logic is If she cares enough to lie for me then she cares enough for me AND THAT IS MORE THEN ENOUGH....
on: December 17, 2007 9:01 PM | Reply
HI Reena , I 2 love to read the comment on Debonairblog. well i am also Vrigin. NOT yet Fuck any One Till yet...!
on: December 18, 2007 8:13 PM | Reply
me also virgin my penis never touch a woman's hymen i think u should b first
on: January 15, 2008 1:08 PM | Reply
Hey guys what if all unmarried girls have lost they virginity?? Will you simply die without marring? This is a mad world guys…. So stop worrying and live happily married and I’m a virgin too (30yrs).
on: February 6, 2008 4:02 AM | Reply
No one dies virgin .... .life screws us all :)
on: February 12, 2008 4:55 AM | Reply
the best advice i can give is try talking with the girl about sex before you tie the knot. See, how she replies and what are opinions and views about sex. Ask her if she had seen the movies like Original Sin or Unfaithful and watch her facial expressions. That i think would be the best test.
on: November 23, 2008 5:38 PM | Reply
my friend's 1st time in his sex with his girlfriend,he felt a sucking pulling feel from her vagina that his went into the hole automatically and he released through such a situation at once.Pls advice what is the pulling feel and if its true.thank-you
on: December 11, 2008 4:57 AM | Reply
A man who never had sex with any women before marriege rightfully deserves a virgin women otherwise he not.
on: July 7, 2009 3:13 AM | Reply
THE BEST WAY TO FIND IF A GIRL IS VIRGIN OR NOT IS...ask the girl to lay down in a bath tub full of water, if the bubbles come out of water just understand that the girl is already PUNCTURED...or else the girl is a virgin...