Editor's Note: I have purposely not published a reply to the below mentioned sex query. I would like to hear from you guys on what you would suggest to this crazy sadistic husband.
Q. I am a 32-year-old married man with five kids. I normally used to have sex twice every day and four times on weekends. But of late I have developed sadistic tendencies. I don't get pleasure in sex and have erection unless I undress my wife, take her nude to the bathroom, switch on the shower and beat her up with belt on her breasts, buttocks and genitals. Then I slap her hard about four to five times and pull her hair. After doing all this I get full erection and I enjoy good hot sex which lasts for about half-an-hour. I really feel guilty about ill-treating my wife. Please help me out.
Comments (78)
on: September 24, 2007 5:54 PM | Reply
This guy is real stupid. He should be immidiately treated by Psychriatist............
Real PITY for his wife....
real Mad guy
pls. see doctor
on: September 24, 2007 6:01 PM | Reply
dude.... three words for you "YOU" "ARE" "SICK".
on: September 24, 2007 6:07 PM | Reply
i think he is mentally disturb, and has to b mediclise with some good psychiatric. further he should have to get far from his wife as he get back normal again
on: September 24, 2007 6:08 PM | Reply
he took the first step by asking here
Now see a doctor personally
To editor please let us see the reply from your side
on: September 24, 2007 6:22 PM | Reply
I think you can tell your wife to do the same to you or she can help you buy cutting off your penis.. may be you will get more pleasure
on: September 24, 2007 6:27 PM | Reply
dude u need help of a Psychiatrist. You are not only hurting your sex partner , but also a mother of 5.
on: September 24, 2007 6:37 PM | Reply
this is too much . he does not love his wife.he is a psycho patient and need treatment ,better see a psychiatrist at the earliest or else some one will smash him . no body does this to your wife. u better go and hang.idiot
on: September 24, 2007 6:41 PM | Reply
Simply a bad consequence of too much sex.
Better not to think about sex for sometime, take break, try to make busy with some other stuffs and try to have positive attitudes towards life and sex. Better to realise that sex is simply a part of life but not a whole life. He can have good time with his kids. They are the best part of parents.
I strongly condemn beating wife.
on: September 24, 2007 7:12 PM | Reply
Im 21yrs old un-married female here who is in longterms relations in physical activities as well but SAFE, if I would be in place of your wife I would assume myself very lucky to have such hard, long penis in all my holes. I hope if she is below 30s she must be enjoying all this which u think is cruel act.
I love to have such things to me doing by my BF or my hubby in future....maybe.
on: September 24, 2007 7:24 PM | Reply
rather than going so much physical, you should try some less harmful BDSM techniques.
on: September 24, 2007 7:42 PM | Reply
man just think how u'll feel if its going to be the other way round. u ureself feel tht wat you're doin is not right at all. more than tht wat is important is wat is on ure wife's mind. if she's enjoyin it then i've no words to say.. doin in this once in a while is ok but noe everyday!!! man.. sex is not for pleasure alone... try to figure out some other way of gettin erection... consult a sex doctor. he'll definitely come up wit a solution
on: September 24, 2007 8:14 PM | Reply
Think, this type of rascals should be hanged. Its pathetic. How can anyone do this to his wife? I think he is mentally sick. Wonder y this type of questions are even published by the editor.
on: September 24, 2007 8:18 PM | Reply
I am wondering that if u r middle aged bat gets horny two times a day and 4 times on weekend, how much do u beat up her up and liar where do u shove in ur 5 children when u follow this routine??
well u see ur near to being a rapist or rather u r a rapist. ppl like u shud be born with 2 dicks so tht doc can identify u and put u to sleep.
Don't go and see a doc coz if he has any humanity left, he will slit ur thing and fill it with pepper.
I although have a suggestion for u. Go out and get a dildo for urself, a thick one and shove it in ur , that might compensate a bit
on: September 24, 2007 8:57 PM | Reply
i really dont know what is all this commotion about ...i mean as a man we feel this is cruel and i agree as well but if his wife is allowing him to carry on then y so much of fuss!!!!who are we to judge....every human being knows what he/she is doing....no one is stupid or extra smart and in this age of women power m pretty sure if it wasnt for the enjoyment/pleasure his wife would have left him long time ago...i mean if small time issues can lead to divorce this is like human torture(from my point of view) and if u guys read the comment above from bombay's un-married female...it makes me think what we guys may think torture could be pleasure for a female after all men and women are poles apart ;-) ....i may be wrong
on: September 24, 2007 10:47 PM | Reply
I think u shud leave sex for some time and go for masturbation until u r fed up with it! Use vaseline oil or olive oil for lubrication and do it before taking shower (ALONE) and do it the hard way (by making ur hand still and moving ur body as fast as u can).
on: September 24, 2007 10:53 PM | Reply
U ARE AN ASSHOLE
on: September 24, 2007 10:58 PM | Reply
The best thing is that this man's penis should be beaten up to such an extent that it swells and cannot enter his wife's vagina.
Perversion has a limit, and this is cruelty. and please provide the address of this person to the unmarried Mumbai girl, who boasts of having physical relations and unmarried and want penis in her holes. She can find lot of stray male dogs in the streets and she is at liberty to have their penis in her holes. Sickening people at such young ages. Please provide the address of this person to this girl, who can be belted by him and let she enjoy
on: September 24, 2007 11:02 PM | Reply
hey there.... If I were your wife I would have cut your balls and threw to the street dogs.... you better do it yourself before your wife does it....
on: September 24, 2007 11:08 PM | Reply
the best thing is, instead of asking for sex advice from others, he should ask for comments of his wife and let them puslish here also. IF she also enjoying it, the matter ends and if she has different opinion then it should be lesson for all the sadistic men. i think we all would love to hear his wife on this. So dude if u have balls enough then put yur wife comments here.
on: September 24, 2007 11:48 PM | Reply
Well......to start with blameing this guy is wrong...a lot of females like to be dominated and abused in bed....my gf while having sex has told me to slap her plenty of times, she loves it when I scold or verbaly + physically absuse her in bed ...I don't know why...she is the secong girl I have been with that enjoys these things...last week when I got of work ...I took my belt off and that turned her on she imideatlly took her shorts off..and had me spank her.....and then we enjoyed a good romp....which wazz nice....like I said it all depends what ur into...me personally am against the absuse but if ur partner enjoys it ( the one takeing the absuse) why complain.....sex is a beautiful thing but spicing it up never hurt any one....please comment in this blog letting me know how u felt about this lil comment......just say "comment for sonny"
on: September 24, 2007 11:49 PM | Reply
This man is very very very sexy. i think all 5 are born from bathroom sex.
on: September 24, 2007 11:54 PM | Reply
person is mentally sick should wear a red hot chilly powder filled condom before doing this inhuman treatment with his wife. So that this act could be done once in a month or his wife should leave this GANDUWA person
on: September 24, 2007 11:56 PM | Reply
Get ur wife 2 me... Let me fuck her loving and caring her... If she doesnt like it then whatever ur doing is absolutely alright man:)
on: September 25, 2007 12:01 AM | Reply
some one needs to butfuck you while buttfucking you they should beat the shit out of you and that might help you get an erection.How does that sound for getting an erection? U fuckin sick asshole.
on: September 25, 2007 12:07 AM | Reply
simple solution,
cut off your balls.
on: September 25, 2007 12:07 AM | Reply
ALL THE COMMENTS ARE GOOD, BUT I THINK TWO ARE THE BEST.
1. HIS WIFE SUCH ACTION & LOVED TO BE FUCKED THIS WAY, I HAVE BEEN IN RELATION WITH A GIRL WHOS PERVIOUS BF USED TO DO SAME, & WHEN I HAD HER SHE ASKED ME TO BEAT HER DURING SEX, C THE MOVIE "ONCE UPON A TIME IN AMERICA" IN WHICH ROBERT DENARO RAPES A GIRL DURING A ROBBERY AND SHE ASKS FOR SAME BEATING & LOOOOOVED IT SO MUCH.
2.TOO MUCH SEX IN HIS LIFE HAS BROUGHT HIM TO THIS SITUATION WHERE HE LIKES TO BEAT WIFE & ENJOY SEX.THIS IS NORMAL IN COUPLES WHO HAVE SEX SEX & SEX. THEN THERE IS NO CHARM IN IT AND THEN PPL GO FOR BDSM, COUPLE SEX, GROUP SEX ETC.
DUDE, ASK YOU WIFE, IF SHE IS GOOD THEN ALL IS GOOD, AND IF SHE IS NOT COMFORTABLE THEN REDUCE UR SEX LIFE TO 1 OR 2 TIMES A WEEK.
MY ADVISE TO ALL PPL OUT THERE,SOME LADIES LIKE ROUGH HANDLING & WITHOUT IT THEY DONT GET ORGASM, TRY IT DONT ASK HER THAT CAN I PLZ BEAT U, START WILL SMALL SLAPS ON ASS WHILE FUCKING HER DOGGY STYLE, U WILL LEARN MORE. CHEEEEERS
on: September 25, 2007 12:13 AM | Reply
I really like the comment posted by 'Sk' but really surprissed by the one posted by named"UNMARRIED".I think this man is in this position just because of doing lots of sex after which u dont get pleasure in normal sex ,as said by the husband.Thats why to have pleasure u start doing other things without thinking whether ur partner is enjoying it or not.This can happen to anybody with overdose of sex .so in my opinion u must reduce ur sex proportion divert ur mind ,there are a hell lots of other things to do because after indulging in other works u cant get time to have sex twice a day & four times on weekend.Its not god to have five kids at age of 32 .just start thinking about there future it will help & dont forget to say sorry to ur wife...........please tell me how u like my opinion(anyone)
on: September 25, 2007 12:13 AM | Reply
Just for a change of scene, you take you wife's position and get a whack on your balls for 10 minutes, and then feel the real thing, You sadistic SICKO-BASTARD, gimme your location and address, I will personally come over and chop your dick and balls off and stuff it into your mouth.
My friends in this blog... what do you think??, Shall we give him the treatment. Hope I am not wrong.
on: September 25, 2007 12:36 AM | Reply
Well great man....why don't u just hit ur penis 3-4 times with a belt instead of beating ur wife and then getting an erection.....
I think this will be a better idea coz ur penis will get scared of the beatings and automatically stand up on seeing a belt.
on: September 25, 2007 12:50 AM | Reply
As the other guy said.. you did take the first step by asking for help here.
Go to some BDSM porn site and see how it can be done in a way which doesn't hurt your partner.
If you think you are hurting your wife, go and get some psychiatric help. She has done nothing wrong to deserve this.
on: September 25, 2007 12:52 AM | Reply
i request editor please help him out personally by recommending him the specialist of this field as he has confessed his guilt so u must help him out and other thing to some readers he has ask for advice not for conclusion or for punishment so please give him some valuable advice instead of abusing him.
on: September 25, 2007 1:02 AM | Reply
if that guy gives me his address i can help his wife.. he can stay cool
on: September 25, 2007 1:11 AM | Reply
This Looks good in the Movies & in reality only with Drugged Whores, who are for the Customers in all ways.
Not for that Poor Wife, who is sitting Duck, this guy is Sick & is a Threat to the Family.
What if something happens to the Wife, what if the Doctors find out. Either that he'll be sent to the Asylum or to the Physciatrist.
He should change while theres still time. Or he'll be in a great state of Mental Imbalance.
on: September 25, 2007 1:13 AM | Reply
Man please control urself. Try to undrstand what ur wife mush be goin through...........Give her pleasure by takin good care of her. Show ur love to her during the process not ur animal in u. Just once try to give her pleasure durin sex try to satisfy her show ur care in it show ur effection in it.......i sure she will feel blessed to have a partner like u....Never ever show ur animal in u to ur life partner show ur love for her.......U say u feel guilty after that then i am sure u do love her lot......
on: September 25, 2007 1:13 AM | Reply
ask your wife if she enjoys it. If she does, then you don't have to visit a doctor. If she doesn't then try to do an alternative thing besides hitting her. If that doesn't help then visit a doctor
on: September 25, 2007 1:33 AM | Reply
This is a crazy man...
I wonder how does his wife allow such things...
Well the solution is that this man should get a gothic prostitute and get the gothic painful beating sex...
(The gothics beat themselves and their partners to death to excite themselves)...
Then he will realise how does it feel to get the painful sex... and maybe then he will get throught his problem..
A phsycaitrist will not be of help coz he knows that it is bad...
on: September 25, 2007 1:35 AM | Reply
Dude, if you're reading these comments, I think you need some time to analyze what you're doing. Whatever your fantasies may be, you shouldn't make your wife your personal victim. She doesn't enjoy this the way you do, and no matter how high you get, you're hurting someone who's trusted her life in your hands, man! Your pleasure is someone's pain...think about it that way. Get some help, see a consultant, cool things off. What you're doing is wrong...and if you don't take care, it's going to become something you will definately regret.
on: September 25, 2007 1:43 AM | Reply
I think this man needs to be arrested and thrown in jail. This is abuse of the worst kind and there is no excuse for it
on: September 25, 2007 1:47 AM | Reply
I can help Sadistic husband:
why don't you bring ur wife at my place and i'll show you ways to fuck ur wife without beating her. Learn to Learn !
on: September 25, 2007 1:59 AM | Reply
You are not a human. You are a animal. You should stick your dick in a 7000V vaccum cleaner.
on: September 25, 2007 2:00 AM | Reply
this guy aint sick...hes having a fetish for BDSM.But dude u need ur partner's approval for such type of ribald sexual fantasies...i strongly recommend fulfilling ur fetishes(for both partners) as it adds spice to your sex life but dont do it as if ur raping her...it suggest u have been watching 2 much porn offl8 n espcially those movies where guys pull girls by hair n all that stuff...cut ur porn and exercise some restraint...every fetish can be controlled by will power n if u wanna continue .... do it in a way which pleases u both without hurting
on: September 25, 2007 2:11 AM | Reply
Bastard is the answer,,, let ur wife do the same to u and then you would know
on: September 25, 2007 2:22 AM | Reply
GOD.. he is one sick bastard...
at least u know what u have now.. go see a good doctor..
he will help u out
on: September 25, 2007 2:25 AM | Reply
the guy needs to be dealt with with sympathy. Hes obviously troubled enough to write in. Warped libido may be caused by any no. of causes and the best course would appear to be counselling by a psychiatrist or psychologist. The sooner the better, as his wife appears to be suffering a lot too.
on: September 25, 2007 2:26 AM | Reply
Hey UN-Married mumbai babe...hmmm u seem to be submissive.. there r lota clubs for that... good luck
on: September 25, 2007 2:31 AM | Reply
hmm according to my knowledge what i feel is that this guy has built up male ego and i think he feels too dominant in the house so the ego has gone to the next step where he knows that no matter what he does no one can ask him any question so resulting in such activity to satisfy his ego thirst
solution: would be to give him a Tight Slap on his face by his wife and treat him like piece of shit basically give him his own medicine, that would solve all problem.
on: September 25, 2007 2:41 AM | Reply
Dear Friend,
When you go to the bathroom next time, flush yourself!
Best regards,
Nandlal Goswami
on: September 25, 2007 3:41 AM | Reply
IS still your wife is with you...................i think she will ran away some time..................................this guy sucks........
on: September 25, 2007 3:44 AM | Reply
DUDE u need a good psychiatric.otherwise u may loose ur relataion,take a break from sex for some time and try to get ur self really busy and ask ur wife not to take ur domanating nature and take her in full confidence and ask her to make u realsied that what u are doing while having sex is wrong and refuse to take ur beating behaviou
on: September 25, 2007 5:12 AM | Reply
I would give advice to his wife... GET OUT WITH YOUR KIDS. Today hes sadistic towards you, Tomorrow towards to your kids...
on: September 25, 2007 5:13 AM | Reply
ok,if she agree = normal
if she is not agree = stop now
on: September 25, 2007 6:43 AM | Reply
stop watching porn
on: September 25, 2007 7:55 AM | Reply
this guy is truly mad, he should consult a psychiatrist soon or he will end up in jail for killing his wife.
right now he needs just to beat her up, but as in the case of any drug, he will need to increase the need of the stimulation, and one fine day in this frenzy he will end up killing her.
on: September 25, 2007 10:34 AM | Reply
Get psychiatric help before it's too late.
on: September 25, 2007 10:53 AM | Reply
hello friends did u read the above comment by a lady named un married
mumbay. she has not experienced such sadistic activities . but if she was in that poor lady place , then i think this lady would have cut that mad mans penis for sure.
dont just write anything like this
on: September 25, 2007 11:07 AM | Reply
u r such a son off a bitch u scum..........shes ur wife damn it...not a brut she has feelings better tk a divorce nd let her live her own life happily.if not thn try to mk luv to her before having sex try to arouse ur self......odrwise **** ***
on: September 25, 2007 11:38 AM | Reply
dont misunderstand this guy as as psycho. this is a kind of sexual desire.
hey buddy, dont feel that u r doing something wrong. its kind of some hot desire like we see in some xxx movies. only thing is u have to leave that type of obsession. i guess u watch a lot of movies like that. better thing is try to watch those movies which have romantic touch and lovely feelings. i think u will mostly get better after that.
and for ur errection problem, u know its just some kind of phobia u think that u do not get errection. ask ur wife to give u hand or blow job. it will help u a lot.
one point u have to notice is that even women like that kind of sex, but not all the times. only thing is u have to know ur ladies feelings before u start.
dont worry, u WILL get better.
on: September 25, 2007 12:02 PM | Reply
I think he has taken the first rite step by coming out and understanding that he has got some problem. He should now go and see a Psychiatrist
on: September 25, 2007 12:17 PM | Reply
Some women actually like being treated is a harsh way when it comes to sex, BUT extrapolating from your guilt of ill treating your wife, I'm guessing your wife isn't one of them. If she doesn't like it, stop dude, really. One day, you'll wake up with your hands tied to the bed, a knife in her hand, and a lemon on top of you dick.
Get some help, and physical abuse on a spouse is illegal, hell its tricky even when you has consent, so see a doctor.
on: September 25, 2007 12:18 PM | Reply
this guy is a real psycho. why his wife is staying with him. de does sex twice daily an he get pleasure for half an hour! strange, if u cannot respect woman then u don't have right to keep up with them. shame on u real fucking ass hole
on: September 25, 2007 12:40 PM | Reply
UR absolutely a sick and sex maniac female i guess Miss....unmarried.... better put dildos all in ur holes....
on: September 25, 2007 1:09 PM | Reply
I have a solution for you..
VIAGRA
I hope it takes ur wife out of this sick ordeal...
on: September 25, 2007 1:24 PM | Reply
I think you are really Sick to even to post something like this. You need immediate medical attention and treatment. Have your wife take some good vacation and go out of country or something leaving you alone for couple of years.
on: September 25, 2007 2:32 PM | Reply
you may enjoy hard sex. but not like this. i think this question is not a real one. it has been asked by someone for timepass.
if anyone in this stage beating his wife for sex. simply kill him.
on: September 25, 2007 3:02 PM | Reply
B4 u hurting ur wife, just think if u r in ur wife's position.
even we dont have rights to hurt even animals.
better 2 meet a psyciatrist,
B4 that think every second that u hurting ur wife.
If it repeats continously, she will run out of ur life.
on: September 25, 2007 3:10 PM | Reply
Why doesn't this guy's wife does the same to him??
The arse hole desrves the worst.. should be castrated so the question of him getting a hard on isn't there...
on: September 25, 2007 3:49 PM | Reply
Perhaps....Maybe on words, it would sound hard-fuck is great....sometimes it real pain. Dont encourage on such issues.....when your bf/hus beats for sex, you would enjoy?
comme on...im sure u are kidding
on: September 25, 2007 4:25 PM | Reply
This guy is really sick. I can't imagine how the wife is still putting up with him. He seriuosly need some medical attention.
on: September 25, 2007 10:25 PM | Reply
This husband, needs to be taken to the mental hospital and his wife and children should be handed over to social services.Today he started off to beat his wife, tommorrow he will do with his kids ?
Is it fair to treat your wife and kids this way just to fulfill your fantasies ?
What about the promises you made in front of the fire while getting marry ?
What are your kids learning from all this ?
What is your future and your families future with all this ?
You can only answer this and figure out ?
I strongly recommend you both go to the counsellor and seek help privately, so this can be solved before it is out of hand.
Good luck and get yourself treated, i am sure it is temporarily situation.
For people who are telling this is normal, should also seek medical help and for god sake xxx movies cannot be immsersed into our lives, those are actors performing to entertain us and are faking not to make us sick and behave abnormally and ruin our lives in this extreme manner.
Wisdom girl
on: September 26, 2007 1:08 AM | Reply
I think this man is a good one. He wants to improve - just doesnt know the how of it. If not why should he feel ashamed and approach a doctor?
As it is has not been continuing from the beginning, I feel a proper counselling will revert back him to be a gentleman.
on: September 26, 2007 1:10 AM | Reply
dont do that because only your wife will be there for you in old age
on: September 26, 2007 1:34 AM | Reply
I think this guy has lost it. He should see a psychologist on an immediate basis. He's mentally sick and if somethin is not done bout his mental state, things could worsten.
In my opinion "Consult A Psychologist Immediately"
on: September 26, 2007 3:33 PM | Reply
I want to thank Adity for supporting my opinion.
on: September 26, 2007 9:08 PM | Reply
hi i am a consulting psychaitrist working in mumbai. this case is to be treated as a normal sex, it is abnormal for us but for this husband it is normal.even his spouse is ok with the perverted nature of her hubby, else she would have either killed him or would have left him dry for sex.
Few of the reason for this sort of nature could be -- excessive sex, excessive maturbation or arousal or in other word allways the thoughts would lie in the world of sex, a want to see own wife as a prostitute or the most common reason is a want to have sex with other than spouse, may be neighbours or anyone else. i would suggest him to visit a doctor, if he finds himself guilty for these deeds...else this perverted nature would automatically drop out after a few months. also try to reduce the no of intercourse that you have. i am sure he will come out of this...
Editor's Reply: Thanks Doc for such a detailed reply. Hope others learn from this.
on: September 27, 2007 3:59 AM | Reply
firstly, hats off to the women, who is baring all the physical harrasment and still sleeping with the guy and keeping in relation with him.
in this case what i think is, even she started liking or got used to this kind of sex, may be even she is in the same state of mind as that of her husband, els who would bare this kind of harrasement.
well as far as guy is concerned he is sick and he is actually not looking for sex , he wants to rape his wife. He is a physcho who wants to have sex, but creating a scenario of rape.
on: September 27, 2007 4:11 AM | Reply
It is this mans right as his wife is his property and i can understand where he is coming from. My wife sometimes forgets her place then im forced to put her back on her place! i beat her on her backside with a wooden plank or belt or i give a few hard slaps till she is a crying wreck begging at my feet then we have good sex
on: October 1, 2007 12:27 PM | Reply
Firstly, this guy says that he is feeling guilty about illtreating his wife, so there is remorse and he can't be all that bad, if he is feeling the guilt then all he's gotta do is to find a solution to it.
As for the wife, I am wondering why she has not left this guy or quiet aptly chopped off his balls:
Either
a) she is really enjoying this.....
b) she is doing this because she is not in a position to support all of 5 children on her own....and of course she wouldn't want to harm the bread winner of the family....
As for the advise part,
this guy really needs to talk to his wife....if she is into it then dig it man but tone it down a bit you wouldn't want anything to happen to her and then regret it... Go for some counselling or find alternatives to stimulate the both of you.... and reduce the sex it has gone beyond you now.... you see the normal sexual activity is not arousing you anymore, you just want to do it because it has gone too much in your head and now you are doing it just because it is a thing you do..
This absurd activity is only a result of the fact that you are not enjoying normal sex anymore, so no harm in trying new things....like reading a book or something. There is more to life than sex.
Be a man and take care of your wife and kids...
By the way take a fat insurance policy out....in case your wife decides to kill you someday you can atleast say thank you in the subtlest of manner to her... and advise her to make it look like an accident :)
on: October 4, 2007 11:19 AM | Reply
Just BDSM man....its k but only if its ok wit ur wife...