Q. I am a 30-year-old man and will be getting married soon. My problem is that I am sexually very weak. I had started masturbating at the age of 14 and I got addicted to it. So much so that, I started masturbating day and night. Now, I doubt if I could ever have an intercourse as I get erection, but it releases in no time. I want to have a happily married life. Please guide me.
A. Medically speaking masturbation is harmless but it is the worry about it that causes the problem you have described. First of all, you have to stop worrying about masturbating. It is also a good idea to abstain from this habit, as it will help reduce the stress you are undergoing. You can also see a doctor and discuss your problem as well as life style for relief.
Comments (9)
on: July 1, 2007 10:46 AM | Reply
Don't worry. The very fact that you are able to masturbate day and night means that you will be able to satisfy your partner more than enough. You might find the first few days a bit uneasy to get adjusted, but I would guess that you will be able to do well.
on: July 1, 2007 4:51 PM | Reply
Hey fella,
It is very much ok. I am addicted to masturbation aswell.Infact I do it atleast 3 times a day. I also have a GF and once in a while I have sex too. Sex is completely different from masturbation and you cannot erupt fast as in masturbation. Many of my friends had the same doubt you had and hence I gave this reply. It is better to reduce the frequency of masturbation but you dont have to worry about it.So just chill and carry on with your life..
on: July 2, 2007 1:12 AM | Reply
I think i understand your performance problem more than others
1st the fact that u masterbate so much shows ur interest in woman and any girl will be lucky to have u if u devote all this attention to her. Your best wepon is forplay... u can give your partner more orgasms with your tounge and your finger on her clit or G-Spot than your performance member. the male organ makes woman feel good initially but dosent neccesarily give her an orgasm. If you master playing with your partners clit and g-spot you will be giving her more orgasms than the avergae male with a strong tool can.
Other than that look into medicine and other aspects of "andrology" doctors. they specificly deal with issues u maybe facing. Science is moving forward rapidly on this issue so please take the help u can now and im sure u will be helped more in the future as there will be more development.
you have one life. please make all the efforts to live it and im sure god will guide you as u make the effort
on: July 2, 2007 12:09 PM | Reply
If you are mastrubating a lot it means you are using your tool in very good manner . I also mastrubate a lot in my teens and that helps me a lot when i got married . When you mastrubate you remove the extra sensation by this practice from your tool and the result when you intercourse you stays a long.
Yes it is true you will ejaculate immidiately if you masterbuate but am 100% sure you will intercourse for a long time with your wife .
Don't worry be happy .
on: July 2, 2007 9:23 PM | Reply
i assure u 200 percent.....there will be no adverse effect on ur sex life, due to the excessive masturbation u believe, u had indulged...........be confident and go ahead............
on: July 2, 2007 11:28 PM | Reply
do not worry
keep patience while doing sex rub alot of oil on your penis and insert it slowly insde her vagina but do not forget to foreplay with her for atleast 1/2 an hour before doing that until she gets wet
on: July 19, 2007 12:11 AM | Reply
sir
could u plz tell me that when i gona discharge at this time i lose my senses i feel like i m flying and i m unconcious for 10 minutes actually this time i enjoy very much and i dont care any one . y it happend to me when i discharge my cum. plz tell me some time i felt from the bed during discharging.
on: August 19, 2007 2:50 PM | Reply
Guys one thing really troubling me these days is that masturbating daily or alternate days, leads to a prob called premature ejaculation?i masturbate gnrly alternate day but it won't last for long.Please shed some light on this issue.
Editor's Reply: Dear Sandy, thanks for writing in. No, masturbation doesn't lead to premature ejaculation. It's all in the head.
on: October 5, 2007 9:25 AM | Reply
Good advise people! I personally dont believe masturbation can cause any such problems. If at all while having sex if you are having premature ejeculations then try to relax. Lessen your excitement and things will be back in control.