Q. I realize this is an old complaint, but since my wife had a baby a few months ago she hasn't wanted to have sex with me. I know this happens to a lot of women--and I certainly don't want to put pressure on her--but I'm starting to go nuts! Is there something I can do to speed up the recovery process? I'll try anything! -- Dinesh
A. In a situation like this, Dinesh, the “recovery process” pretty much has to proceed at its own, individual rate. As you yourself pointed out, it's not unusual for a woman to lose interest in sex after childbirth. Not only is childbirth incredibly draining both mentally and physically, but also a new mom naturally tends to focus a majority of her attention on her baby. Eventually, of course, most women tend to strike a balance between motherhood and their man. If, however, after a reasonable length of time (loosely defined as somewhere between six months and one year), your gal still remains utterly uninterested in sex, then you need to sit down and have a candid discussion. Remind her that physical intimacy is an expected component of any romantic relationship and express to her--in a diplomatic, caring way--how much you miss it. While this may or may not resolve the underlying issue, it will at least serve to open up you channels of communication.
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on: May 18, 2007 11:27 PM | Reply
i can understand ur problem,its all due to a hormone called prolactin...its normally present in both men and women,but its level increases during preganancy and lactation in women....it acts on female reproductive organs and reduce their sexual desire..thats why till ur wife is lactating their will be prolactin secretion and she will have reduced desire of sex...so dont worry and have patience.