Q. I am a 45-year-old man and am married for the past 14 years leading a healthy and sexual life. My wife is 39-year-old. I have recently experienced a strange development in my sex urge. My sexual desire has suddenly shot up and now I desire sex almost daily and sometimes even two times a day. My erection has also improved tremendously as the sex is lasting for 30 minutes and sometimes even more than 45 minutes especially when I am doing it for second time the same day. This has scared my wife who is really bothered and concerned about this behaviour. She tries to escape and find some excuse or the other. She even told me to marry another woman because she cannot cope with it. I am really confused. I try to stay cool but my urge is making me crazy and this is leading to some serious fights between me and my wife. I dont know what to do. Please help me out.
A. There is only one medical condition, which causes an increase in sexual urge and that is ‘Mania’. Other symptoms required to diagnose this condition are: sleeplessness without feeling sleep deprived, increase in self-confidence and energy level in general. Most patients of this illness talk fast and loud, are irritable, on the go, irresponsible and can become aggressive as well. Just one symptom of increased sexual desire is not enough to warrant to for a diagnosis. Increased sexual desire in the absence of altered behaviour in any way is very normal and it might last for a short period and revert back to normal due to exigencies of life. The alteration of sexual appetite can happen due a number of psychological factors like: ‘not wanting to discipline oneself’, giving oneself the license of not caring for others or a feeling of having achieved enough and thus being entitled to pleasure or a general feeling of relaxation and well being as by the age of 45 a number of anxieties of life and living have been taken care of. You should see a psychiatrist to rule out the medical condition of ‘Mania’ (or shades of it called hypomania) and to confirm that your increased sexual desire is a normal short-term happening.
Comments (6)
on: May 8, 2007 9:05 AM | Reply
Also, increased sexual desire in the absence of any psychological disorder could indicate altered functioning of the hypothalamus or the adrenal glands. With the large number of physical complications that could emerge, an examination of your hormone levels would also be ideal.
Of course, there's also the possibility that you merely desire your wife more because you find her more attractive now than before. Whatever the reason may have caused that could also be attributed to your increased sexual appetite.
on: May 8, 2007 11:00 AM | Reply
It’s very strange to know about your sex urge at the age of 45.Great!!! Your sex last for 35/40 min, on the contrary I am 33 but when I go for the sex with my girlfriend
It’s last for just 3/5 min only to ejaculate. It’s very embarrassing for me; do you suggest any medicine or other way out?
on: May 8, 2007 8:31 PM | Reply
You should feel very lucky. Just enjoy it. I'd do anything for that to happen to me :-)
on: May 9, 2007 1:05 AM | Reply
Hello,
I know your urge for sex has increased but you should take care of your wife too. Life is not just sex and only sex. If you enjoy let her too. But that too needs some civilization. You can try masturbation rather than torturing her, or making that a family issue for fights. Thats where the sex goes wrong, and becomes more of a torture to both of you. Stay cool, think twice. Take her to places, visit some cool climate such as Shimla, Nainital. Enjoy ur life and also let her enjoy. When she can tell you to marry another lady, she is really hurt a lot man. You shud care her feelings and apologize her, you can also ask her to give you a handjob rather than a fuck. There are so many other ways you can control ur self, quit non-vegetarian food for a while and take cool (icy) milk befor sleep at night. Take care of your wife and plan the future of your family man. Its already 14 years. No alternatives and dont search for too. Bye.
on: May 9, 2007 1:40 PM | Reply
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on: December 25, 2007 8:25 PM | Reply
I WAS SUFFERING FROM THE SAME PROBLEM BUT I FIND THE WAY I DON'T DISTURB MY WIFE NOW. I JUST GO OUTSIDE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND WHEN I FEEL A LOT PLEASURE AND TIRED I RETURNED HOME TO MY WIFE'S LAP. AS A RESULT SHE AND I BOTH ARE ENJOYING A HAPPY LIFE.